When will it stop? As in breaking each other down instead of uplifting one another. We live in a world where no matter what YOU ARE BEING JUDGED!. You can't even walk down the block without someone saying something about you. Why can't someone be exactly who they want to be without worrying about someone saying something negative about them. If you're skinny, they say "She needs to gain weight". If you're fat, they say "She needs to lose weight". If your hair is natural and you are embracing it, it's an issue for some because they feel that you would be much prettier if your hair was permed. They will even say something about your height, but when will the negative comments about others, the bullying and the breaking each other down stop?
I pray each and everyday that we can all be treated the same without no comparison. Why is it so hard for us to love one other and be there for one another? I don't care who the person is, I don't care if I don't know them, I love everyone and I treat everyone with respect. It brings me nothing but joy when I inspire and motivate others to love themselves, know their worth & to be exactly who they want to be. I always say Iam beyond grateful that I took my struggles of not loving myself, having low-self esteem and no confidence at all to inspire others to do otherwise.
On Sunday, May 1st to be exact I had enough, I had a breakdown and just couldn't take the pain I was feeling. This beautiful girl name TayJa posted a picture of her going to prom which is one of the most important nights of her life and social media turned it to be a night she will never forget but in a such a cruel and negative way to where she said "I wish I never went to prom". I first seen the picture on Facebook and the comments literally broke me down, I was beyond pissed off. I seen comments such as "you should of never went to prom", "you're too big for that dress", "you look ridiculous". It was over 1,000 comments and 50% of them were negative. Immediately I posted her picture on IG with a caption to reassure her that she is beautiful, she matter, she's worth it and not to allow any of those negative comments break her down. Then I told all of my confident dolls to tag her and write her a positive message as well. As Queens it is important that we uplift our Queens and be there for them. Over 100 of you wrote to her and that right there meant the world to me.
I didn't start "Confidence Is You" as a little part time activity, I started it to inspire women to be confident and most of all themselves. There was a point in my life where I hated myself, I literally have scars to show that I was trying to take my own life away. I didn't want to be an outkast or live in a world where I didn't have a voice. I wanted to start a movement that no matter what Iam here for you to remind you that "Confidence Is You".
I know that people will always have something to say about somebody else but I can pray and have a voice to make a difference. Our young Queens need us as well as our kings, we have to be there to be an example to them. Over 1,000 people reached out to TayJa as well as celebrities to tell her that she was indeed beautiful and to shut everyone that had something negative to say about her.
We saved her life, you don't know what could of been going on in her mind and we gave someone else confidence that was scared of going to their prom due to their size but now they will know "No one can take MY shine away from Me"
I just want us to love each other, uplift each other and be there for one another. I know people will always have negative comments to say but don't be one of them. Always be a positive and shining light to someone in their lives. Be an example and apread nothing but love and positivity.
A Confident Love From Me To You
Xoxo, Yanika
