Focus On Yourself!

At times we let things and even people in the way of the things we need to do and most of all before ourselves. We get so caught up with what's  going on with them or their situation that we lose sight on what matters. What matters the most in life is YOURSELF, some may disagree but to me I feel that YOU come first before anyone else or anything that may be acquiring. 

What is it that you want? What are your goals? What is happiness to you? Where do you see yourself 5 years from now? Are you happy right now? What are some of the changes you wish to see? Take a few minute to ask yourself these few questions and see if you are truly content and satisfied with your life. I know at times I will be so focus on others and situations that won't benefit me that  I lose track on what matters. We all lose track at times but you have to remember that your goals and the things you need to accomplish is what you need to stay on track with. 

Being consistent is hard at times, trust me I know. For example I've been on my healthy eating and exercise journey to better myself and there will be days where Iam doing everything right from eating the right meals and working out every chance I can. I'll be doing great and then I lose track to where Iam writing this blog at 8:15am and haven't eating breakfast yet. At Times You Will Lose Focus But The Beauty Of Having Another Day Is That You Can Focus On It Even More. Just because you lose focus for a day or two doesn't mean that you can not go on and that's the problem for some. Once they lose focus, they feel that they have to start all over again. You don't have to start over, just start off where you left off. 

From working full time, to going to school full time, building a brand and having a social life with only having 24 hours in a day, it's a lot but I know in order for me to succeed I have to find balance and stay consistent with everything that is going on in my life. Yes it will be tough at times but I just say a prayer and keep on pushing. You have to keep on pushing no matter how hard it gets, nothing in life will be easy but if you focus on what matters and most importantly yourself than things will work out for the best. 

Make a plan, write down your goals, do some research and what I mean by that is doing some research on some of the goals you have can help you have a better understanding. At times I will feel  discouraged and get confused at certain things I don't understand and just reading different articles online or listening to different YouTube channels can give me clarity and the information I need. If you not afraid to ask someone for help then do so, don't be afraid to ask anyone for advice. Don't get me wrong there are some people out there that won't give others advice or any type of knowledge but I feel like it's too much power and knowledge in the world for someone to hold on to theirs and not share with others. 

It doesn't matter what you do as long as you do what is necessary for you to stay consistent with yourself and your goals as well as staying focus. Trust me it will get hard at times but it will all be worth it at the end of it all. 

Believe in yourself and always do what's best for you. You have to do what's best for you in order to be truly happy. There is only one version of you so make sure that you smile each and everyday, You Are A Blessing. 

     A Confident Love From Me To You

                      Xoxo Yanika 

A Confident Lingerie.

A Confident Lingerie! 

Valentines Day is approaching and being sexy for him or her, you know Confidence Is You doesn't discriminate is the only way to be. Wear something they would never expect for you to wear, make it a surprise. For once don't think about your weight not being perfect to avoid wearing something flattering, revealing and sexy. Don't give them the usual, panties and a Tshirt. Can someone say? BORING, if you asked me I would really tell you to be naked but I guess you can put something on that would only give them a minute or less to take off. 

There are so many options for us curvy girls when it comes to lingerie, it's just that some of us are afraid to come out of our shell and be sexy in a way that we would be revealing more than the usual. If you are with them, why are you afraid to wear lingerie? Why are you afraid to be sexy in front of them? As I always say anyone that you are with/sleeping with you shouldn't be afraid to see how you look naked underneath your clothes. The person that you are with should appreciate and love every part of your body including your rolls and your gut. You shouldn't have to be with someone that you are afraid to be naked in front of. Don't get me wrong, I've been there in the past where I would be afraid to be naked in front of the person that I was with because I didn't love my stomach but now that I have the confidence that I need to be me, Girl watch my rolls and stomach giggle and my MR loves it. Actually he is the one who really took me out of my shell and allowed me to be free in front of him. 

You have to be comfortable and be free with the person you are with.  Ok now back to putting on something sexy for your significant other for Valentines day, like I said be DARING. Give them a show like you never did before, let them want more and a show they will be thinking about for months to come. Put Beyoncé "Dance for you" or even Neyo "Mirror" put on one of those songs you might conceive on. (If you do conceive, I'll send you a BabyShower gift lol) but yes put on a song that you know turns you on to really put on a show for your special someone. 

There are all types of lingerie in every color you desire. Now you don't have to wear your typical lingerie (The silk dress looking type), you can put on some sexy boy shorts/thong with a sexy bra on. You don't have to be ordinary, be extra ordinary. They are many places such as Lane Bryant, Simply Be You, Torrid and many more that sells lingerie for curvy girls. Don't think for a minute that lingerie doesn't come in our size, you're just too afraid to wear it so you haven't noticed. 

If you're on a budget because some of these lingerie be a little pricey, be creative. Buy something very sexy that is in your price range as I said before a sexy pair of boy shorts/thong and pair it with a nice sexy bra and get your freak on. Stop being afraid to wear certain thins because of your weight. This person that you are with doesn't love you just because, they love you because they saw how special you are and how beautiful you are inside and out. 

I was so afraid of wearing certain things because of my weight, it was ridiculous. I honestly wore my first lingerie last year while being on vacation with my MJ. I wanted to wear something he never saw me in and put on a show for him. I did that! I was nervous at first but then I realized this is the person that I love and he loves me just as much and all of me flaws and all. You have to stop being so afraid to be yourself or wear certain things in front of the person you love. If you can't be yourself around someone you love then maybe that person isn't the one for you. Anyone that you are with have to love and appreciate you as well as make you comfortable around them no matter what. 

Make it special for Valentines Day, you're special so you deserve to make it magical for the both of you to enjoy. Stop worrying about your weight and what you may consider flaws, you're beautiful. Put that lingerie on, put that music on blast, get some fruits and the whip cream ready and make it happen. Get loose, be confident, be freaky and give him/her a night they will never forget. 

     A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                     Xoxo, Yanika 

Be Your Own Valentine!

It's February 2nd and all you can think about is Valentine's Day and how you don't have someone to share it with. You have all of these thoughts flowing through your mind to why you are lonely and how miserable Valentines Day will be. Pick your head up, stop with all the negative thoughts, stop asking questions to why you are single and can't find someone to love you. Do you even love yourself? Do you?! If you did you wouldn't care about being lonely on Valentine Day and you wouldn't care about having someone to share it because the love you have for yourself would surpasses all of that.

 To be honest with you, the last time I celebrated Valentines day was in High School. I remember my Ex boyfriend surprised me with a teddy bear, flowers and candy, it was special but I never made a big deal of that day. My Ex that I was with for years didn't even acknowledge Valentines day, he didn't even say "Happy Valentine's Day" to me. Of course I was hurt but he never showed his appreciation for me any other day anyways. Due to going through  that with him and never feeling loved or appreciated I told myself the next man I am with have to make me feel loved and appreciated everyday and not only for February 14th.   

Why would you want to be with someone who shows you how much he loves you, cares about you and how much he appreciates you only once a year. Wouldn't you want someone to show how much you mean to him every chance he got? Wouldn't you want someone to give you the world and show you the world each and everyday? See that's the thing you don't think about the endless and forever lasting love and appreciation because you're to busy thinking about having someone to share February 14th with. Wake up and realize you deserve more than just one day, it's time to realize that you deserve to be love and for someone to show you love everyday you are with them. 

My boyfriend as of today, Mr MJ, I could care less if we were to celebrate Valentines Day because there isn't a day that he doesn't show me how much I mean to him. Last year I don't even think we celebrated Valentines day, I didn't care to probably the reason why is because I felt loved and appreciated and I didn't need February 14th to validate that for me. Yes it is a very special day and I am not telling you not to celebrate it. I just want you to be with someone where you feel as if everyday is Valentines Day. You are worth more than you will ever  know, you may think otherwise but you are. Stop settling for less than what you deserve just so you don't have to be lonely on special occasions. It's ok to be lonely as I said in a previous post, take the time that you are single to focus more on yourself and the things you would love to accomplish. 

I was single for about 3 years before I got into my relationship now. I wanted to be sure that I was ready to give someone my time, loyalty and attention where I would eventually love and care for them. I wasn't in no rush especially with the BS I went through. My heart was very fragile and it needed someone with patience to take their time healing it which was MJ. 

Focus on yourself, Focus on the true Queen you are. Focus on your dreams, Focus on what truly matters. Stop Focusing on finding someone so you don't have to always be the "Single Friend", stop settling for less than what you deserve just so you can feel loved. I always say this "Don't look for him, let him search for you". It's better to have someone find you, you're worthy of someone finding you and to love you unconditionally. 

You deserve the ultimate love and I know you will find it, I just want you to be patient and wait until someone can give you the world and love and appreciate you everyday and not only on Valentines Day. 

    A Confident Love From Me To You

                       Xoxo Yanika