A Confident Tuesday Transformation Featuring Carey Adela ❤️

Everybody needs inspiration and motivation and I would have to say when it comes to weight loss, a lot of us struggles with it. I know I do, for years I would tell myself "Iam going to lose weight" and then a few weeks later I give up due to it being to hard. Iam not a quitter when it comes to anything else but when it comes to losing weight I just say "I'll start next week again". I can't keep doing that, now don't get me wrong I love myself. It took me years to be comfortable with myself and to love every single part of me but I can always go on a healthy route to a better lifestyle for myself. So I decided to share some inspiration stories from people I've been following for inspiration to give you inspiration. 

Our first "CIY Transformation Tuesday" Story goes to Carey Adela, I've been following her for quite some time and I must say she is truly an inspiration. Carey is 28 years old from New York City. She struggled with low self esteem and her weight her entire life. She tried every diet known to mankind to lose weight to only gain the weight back. It wasn't  until January 19, 2013 when she went to a friends house warming party that her life would change. As usual, she was the biggest woman in the room. She felt  uncomfortable and spent the evening tugging on her clothes while comparing herself  to the other women with hour glass shapes that were there. The next day she took a look back at the pictures that were taken and she was mortified. She couldn't  believe that the woman in the picture was actually  her. She just couldn't believe she allowed herself to get that big. After she cried her heart out, she got up and said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! 

She started her weight loss by looking through Instagram, Yes Instagram. She searched through weight loss hashtags. After that she changed the way she ate by adding more veggies, fruits, lean meats, whole grains and also by drinking a lot of water. She also started to exercise by doing cardio for 45 mins about 3x a week. It wasn't easy and each time she thought of giving up what kept her motivated to keep on going was the thought of that picture from the night of the house warming bringing her back to how she felt that night. She thought of how uncomfortable she was at 270lbs and couldn't give up. She kept going and fought for her happiness. Without a exercise routine, she would do her cardio and weight lifting. Whatever exercise she hated the most, she would do that  first to get it over with. (Excellent Tip). Her relationship with food has changed. She once turned to food for comfort, which most of us do. I know I did in the past, but she no longer does it.  She EAT TO LIVE NOT LIVE TO EAT!!! With  NO meal plan, she eat things in moderation. Except McDonalds, She doesn't eat that anymore. 

The lifestyle changes that she made overall is that her entire life is differently now. She make sure to get some kind of physical activity in each day while still eating healthy. Many find themselves losing weight for the benefit of others, what advice would you give to someone who isn’t losing the weight for their self I asked her. She simply said she would tell them that they need to lose it for themselves. You can't lose weight for anyone but you. If you do, it won't work or results won't last. It's kind of like looking for happiness on the outside. Happiness is an inside job. I couldn't agree with her more, at times we look for others for happiness when we are the ones truly responsible for our own happiness. 

I asked her what tips would she give to anyone that is ready to follow their weight loss journey, she said RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH.  There's so much information out there don't just rely on Instagram or a person. Google is your friend and can provide you with so much. Also, what works for someone else may not work for you. So find what works best for you. Be honest with yourself. Be consistent and patient because results take time. If you look in the mirror and see no change or if you hop on the scale and the number doesn't move, DO NOT GIVE UP, IT TAKES TIME! 

       ( A Queen she is just like YOU) 

         ( Confident In her Bathing Suit) 

I know that maintaining the weight you lose is hard but Carey refuses to go back to what made her unhappy. So far for a year she has been maintaining her weight loss/ figure. It wasn't just a diet for her, it was a lifestyle so therefore she is in for life. The workouts, her eating habits, they are apart of her life now. Eating clean and working out shouldn't be just until you get to your goal weight, make it a lifestyle change for the better. 

It is hard my confident dolls losing weight but when you're ready to do it and ready to fully be committed to doing it everything will follow. You have to be mentally, emotionally and physically ready to do it.  I can't force you to get on the treadmill or make you eat vegetables but I can encourage you to take small steps to a healthier lifestyle you desire. It wasn't easy for Carey but she didn't give up. She did it for herself and her son, she knew she needed to live a healthier lifestyle so she could live longer for him. Find motivation and inspiration where you go and be around those that will push you not bring you down. At times when we want something, there is someone trying to break us down. Keep on pushing, just like Carey you're doing it for a change, a better lifestyle and stick to it. 

Remember anything you want in life, you can do it. Never think for a second that you can't do it. Anything is possible, I asked Carey Finish the sentence:  Confidence is Me because she replies by saying I am comfortable in my skin with flaws and all. That made me smile because I strive to inspire you all to Love Yourself Inside & Out, Embrace Every Part Of You & Appreciate Yourself  Flaws & All. 

Confidence Is YOU Carey, I Salute you for making your happiness number 1 and striving for it. You are an inspiration to me and to many. I know you will continue to be great and to be an example of positivity and inspiration. You are a confident doll and truly a sweetheart. Thank You, Always & Forever Confidence Is YOU Beautiful 💕 

                  (isn't She Beautiful) 

You Can Do It My Confident Dolls, I will be here to hold your hand when you feel like giving up. Just think of how happy you will be at the end of it all. 

     A Confident Love For Me To You

                    Xoxo, Yanika 

Confident & Au Naturale!!!

Solange Knowles, Nicki Minaj, and Tia & Tamera Mowry; what do these four ladies have in common? They’re all embracing the beauty of their natural tresses. Once upon a time, women felt that in order to be beautiful they had to straighten their hair. However that is a thought of the past because gradually more and more women are flaunting their natural locks and saying “to hell with societies standards of beauty!”

 

Afros, locks, twists, curls, and braids! Women are gradually letting go of the relaxer and transitioning back to their natural hair texture. Now this is not a post to contribute to the silly “natural vs. relaxed debate” or persuade you to convert to natural hair, but to shed light on the cultural change in attitudes we have towards our hair. Lets tread back to the time when straight hair alone was considered beautiful, now there were people who did rock their natural hair but was it socially accepted? How many girls were chastised because their hair was too coarse, too curly, or “untamable?” A majority of women chemically straightened their hair not because they preferred to, but because natural hair textures were viewed by society as ugly, and if you chose to flaunt your natural locks, you were labeled as a social misfit.

 

However we are in a new day and age, the “natural hair movement” is seen everywhere. From celebrities to social media, more and more women are making the decision to go natural. However, I wouldn’t label this cultural change as a “natural hair movement.” I believe that it goes far beyond just hair. Women are gradually finding their confidence and defining their own beauty! Hair just happens to be one of the outlets. So whether you’re hair is curly, straight, kinky, coily, relaxed, texturized, amplified with tracks, wigs, or even if you are bald, remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! And as long as you are happy that is all that matters.

 

So a round of applause to women all of the globe, we have reached a point where our hair care choices are no longer limited.  Let us inspire the next generation of girls that no matter their hair preference they are beautiful. Confidence is YOU, Confidence is ME, Confidence is US!   Stay Beautiful!

Photo 1: Solange Knowles, Tia Mowry, Tamera Mowry, Nicki Minaj

Photo 2: @muchmorethanbeauty, @muvarosebud, @ulovemegz, @eclark6

        A Confident Love For Me To You

                  Xoxo Yanika & Kayla 

Love Never Felt So Good ❤️

"F*ck Love, Iam done with love" were my exact words as I sat on the floor holding my chest as my heart was breaking into millions of pieces and tears flowing down my cheeks. How can someone I gave my heart and soul to hurt me this much?!. Wasn't I worth it?! Wasn't I pretty enough?! Wasn't I smart enough?! I catered to you wasn't it enough?! With a million questions in mind, I was done with Love. As everyone around me tells me it's going to be ok  in due time and I will love again, I didn't believe it. The pain that I felt and the heartbreak that I endure left me damaged.  It wasn't the first time that he broke this precious heart of mines but I knew it was the very last time that he would. After that relationship I dated but I never trusted anyone.

 It was extremely hard for me to open up to anyone and certain guys didn't have the patience to get to know me. You know once they can't get what they want sexually they not with it. There was one person I dated for awhile but I knew we wouldn't go anywhere but I got comfortable until one day I met my special someone. At first in my mind I said let me be his friend again. When I say again, the reason why  is because I knew him for years prior  but something was said which wasn't true but at the moment I believed it so I stop talking to him. But years later as I got matured and realized he was telling the truth, I started being nice and talking to him again.    

At first it was nothing, I never knew that our first date would turn to a second date  and a third date and so on. As time went on we got to know each other a little better and after a few months he wanted more but my guard was up and there was no way I was letting it down for anyone. A few months went by and he was still there patiently getting to know me and not what was between my legs. He did everything to see me smile, the feelings were there for him but I was scared. He promised that if I gave him a chance he wouldn't hurt me but I didn't believe him. It marked a year since we been dating, some felt as if I was crazy not to give him a chance but my heart couldn't handle anymore pain. I remember having a conversation with my mother and she stated " Not all guys are the same, you are going to let a good one go". I knew he was someone special and I needed to give him a chance. I needed to allow my heart to love again and I knew I deserved to be loved again. Every time I  told myself I would give him a chance, the pain and memory of my broken heart made me put my guard up even more. I knew he was getting fed up because at this point it's been a year and a half. And what's so crazy is it got to the point I couldn't be without him, I needed to see him and speak to him frequently but I still didn't want to give him that commitment. I knew it wasn't fair to him because he did everything to make me smile from buying a perfume I asked for that I didn't expect him to buy for me for Christmas to buying tickets for me to see Wale a few times. He took me out every chance he got, he was there when I was frustrated and hurt. There were a few times I cried to him telling him I was scared and he understood. He was patient and that made me care deeply for him but what if I open my heart up to love again and he hurts me.

I took sometime to finally realize that not all guys are the same but things do happen. If something happened I knew that my heart would heal again because at this point my heart was healed but I was just scared. As I was reading some quotes one night I came across this quote from Maya Angelou and it said " have enough courage to trust love one more time", I read it over and over again and at that moment I knew I needed to trust love again with him. A couple weeks later was my book signing for my book "Confidence Is You"( which will be republished in August), I invited him and  I was so excited to have all my love ones there with me celebrating such a big moment in my life. As I was sitting there talking about the book, he walked in and my heart smiled. As he waited on line to get his book signed I knew at that very moment I wanted to be with him. That was all the confirmation I needed. 

I knew he was want I deserved and what god wanted for me. And Iam happy and thankful to say today marks OUR ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY !!!! And with each and everyday that goes by I love him a little bit more and appreciate him more than the day before. Our relationship haven't been perfect but no relationship is perfect. As a couple you will disagree but you will learn to communicate and understand each other more. 

Iam telling you my story to inspire you to love again and to give love a chance. We all deserve to be love, just because you got your heart broken in the past doesn't mean you aren't worthy of love. I was always the one to be in love with the idea of being in love, but what I learned is that I was giving my love to the wrong ones. Love will not be perfect, it isn't a fairytale or a storybook but you can make it your fairytale and write the chapters of your love story. Love is about challenges, communication and coming together to better the both of you guys in the relationship. Love is a four letter word, so easy to spell but something you can't live without. You deserve someone to be crazy about you and love you exactly for who you are inside and out. Things happen, tears will flow and your heart will get broken but never ever give up on love. 

Being in love with someone as well as someone being in love with you is a blessing and gift from god. If you have it already, treasure it and if not be patient like I always say love will find you. Just wait don't rush, it's ok to be single. Just take that time to get to know you better. The love that is meant to happen will happen at the right place and the right time with the right person. I never believed that someone will take the time to heal my heart again and make me fall in love again. I don't know what the future holds for us, God has a plan for all of us. I do know I want to be by his side and just love him more as the days go by. So be patient by confident dolls, LOVE WILL FIND YOU!!!!!! You Are Worthy Of Love. Just trust in God and have Faith. I told my boyfriend today who would of thought I mean I can't believe we went from having matching Jordan's when we were teenagers to now taking trips together as adults being in love and making one year together. I truly believe this was god plan. And I believe it was, so to all my lovers don't give up, that heart of yours will be cherish by someone special. We just spent our first vacation in Vegas together, something I never shared with anyone before. I gave love a chance and Iam the happiest that I ever been. 

 To my love Thank You for making me the happiest girl ever, I trusted you and each and everyday Iam thankful that I did. Thank you for being you, you annoy me at times ( I know I do too lol) but I love you no matter what and believe when I say you got a ride or die cause Iam always gonna be right here by your side.Love is a hard task but most of all it's realizing that every hour, every minute and every second of it was worth it because we did it together. I Love You MJ, Happy 1 Year Anniversary ❤️

NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE MY CONFIDENT Dolls, Love Won't Give Up On You!!!!!!!! 

   A Condident Love From Me To You

                    Xoxo Yanika 

Curvy, Confident & Crop Tops!!!

The Trend: Crop Tops

 

We’ve seen them multiple times on the New York Fashion Week Spring 2014 runways, and now that Spring is here, it’s time we embrace this trend: Crop Tops! Let’s address the fact that wearing a crop top for anyone can be a bit intimidating, but it seems as though the skepticism rises when you are a plus-sized woman. Everyone woman should be able to embrace this season’s trend and NOTHING should hinder that. My Confident Dolls it is time to show up and show out with the two C’s: Confidence and a Crop Top.

 

    (Kimberlee  Postelle styled 4 different types of crop tops) 

It is important to wear what compliments not only your figure but your sense of style as well. While crop tops are known to display the midriff area, there is not a rule that says you have to wear it that way. Crop tops are actually more versatile than many think. Now if you are trying to wear a crop top for the first time it is best to start out with a boxy crop top. The best part about a boxy crop top is that it doesn’t cling, which makes it a great novice crop top. Fashion blogger, Mo Handahu says that boxy crop tops are best paired with skinny jeans for a sleek look and if you want a more relaxed feel, you can match them with a pair of boyfriend jeans.

 

(Nadia Aboulhosn, Garnerstyle, Peggy Jean, & Mo Handahu)

Do not limit yourself to the boxy crop top; I encourage you to try out a closely fitted crop top as well. There is no reason you should feel ashamed of you curves, rock any and every crop top! Closely fitted crop tops look best with a pair of high-waisted jeans, a high-waisted pencil skirt, and even a midi scuba skirt (for my girly Dolls). If you really want to be daring, pair a crop top with a pair of high waist trousers, such as palazzo pants. If in any event you may need to add a little more coverage (due to the occasion, weather, etc.), you may add a topper to minimize exposure. This includes but is not limited to a blazer, leather jacket, kimono, and even a button up shirt. You have the freedom to style it how you see fit.

 

Garnerstyle, Gabifresh, & Jennae Petersen)

Ladies, it is important to know that the hottest trends in New York Fashion Week do not exclude you. It is okay to feel a bit skeptical about trying something new, but I encourage you to try it! For years plus-sized women have limited their shopping horizons because society has created these imaginary rules of what is acceptable for people to wear. Girl you rock that crop top and remember that you can have fun with it. As long as you know what compliments you and you can walk down the street, look at your reflection in the storefront window and say “Damn I Did That!!!” then that is all that maters.  Always remember Confidence Is You!

 

(Myself, Crop Top From Forever 21) 

If you are not sure where to shop for your crop top here are a few stores:

-Rue 107

-ASOS Curve

-Forever 21

-Fashion to Figure

    A confident Love From Me To You

               Xoxo Yanika & Kayla 

Stop Being Scared!!!

He likes you, but you're scared. He thinks that you're beautiful but you're scared. He wants to be with you and share many great memories with you but you're scared. He wants to make you happy but you're scared. Why are you scared?! Because the last guy you dated  did you wrong. The last guy you trusted and loved,  cheated and never told you how beautiful you are so you feel that this new guy will do the same. My confident dolls what the last guy did to you is what HE did to you. Not every guy is the same and that's something I had to learn myself. My EX damaged me so bad I thought all men were the same. But they are not, some may do the same dumb sh*t but they are all different at the end of the day. 

So you have the perfect guy but you're so scared that he is giving up on you. He doesn't want to but he is trying and  you don't realize it. Your heart is aching and tears of falling, scared to be hurt again. I've been there and Iam thankful that he didn't give up on me. Iam thankful that he was patient and he showed me that my heart will be whole again to allow someone in to love me. I appreciate my boyfriend now for that. You can't allow yourself to be hurt forever, things happen and people change. What the last guy did to you doesn't define who you are. He was an ass that didn't appreciate a great woman like you but now you have someone that wants to appreciate you but you're scared.

Stop being scared to give love another chance again. Stop being scared to allow someone to love you for you. Stop it, just stop it. It's not worth it, you're only hurting yourself. You're letting a chance of love go because you're scared. Don't let what happen in the past ruin the great things that will happen for you in the future. Allow love to love you, let it show you that you deserve to be loved. My confident dolls I understand the past pain but believe me when I say this don't let what happen stop you from being treated like the Queen you are.

Let go and let god. He has to place a few frogs in your life before your Prince Charming finds you. Trust god plan, I used to be mad at my broken hearts because I knew I was an amazing girl but I learned that they weren't good enough for a girl like me. I was too good for them and my broken hearts actually helped me to become better and much more appreciative of love. 

So now you have this amazing guy in your life and you are willing to give him a chance. He makes you so happy, you're happy. Everything is good and you're no longer scared. You're thankful, you don't even think about what hurted you before. You are where you want to be and he makes you feel special. You haven't gone all the way with him (sex wise) cause you don't want to give him all that power. I respect that, take your time. Don't lay on your back just because he makes you happy. Do it when you feel it's right and you're comfortable with doing it. 

So the night comes when you feel it's time but you tell him you want the lights off and you want your shirt on. At first he asks you why but you lie and say " you got a few tricks to show you" Why you lying?! You know you just too ashamed for him to see you naked, scared he might leave you and won't be interested anymore once he sees you naked. I've been there and one thing I know for sure when a guy is truly into you and cares about you for you. He doesn't care about how you look naked, because at the end of the day he cares for you on the inside instead of what is on the outside. So you're finally doing it but you're scared to do anything cause in your head all these stupid thoughts about him thinking about how you look will make him never do it with you again. You have to stop, you have to stop and just let it be. Have fun and show him what you're working with. You laid with him so there for he is worth it and you know he not only with you for the sex. Yes I know how you feel but at the same time you're miserable when you're suppose to be having fun. 

Being scared of everything that comes with love will never make you truly happy. You just have to let things be and let it flow. Like I said before LET GO AND LET GOD. What is meant to be will be, you can't let the past hunt you down to your future. Allow him to love you and all of you with the lights Off and ON. Stop being scared to be yourself, know that you're worthy of love and deserve to be loved. Take your time and just let it flow. You're worth it and you deserve to be loved, BELIEVE YOU DO! 

A Confident Love From Me To You

              Xoxo, Yanika 

It's NEVER Too Late!!!!!

A mother, wife, grandmother, daughter and sister with a career, this women of many titles, a women of excellence I  call her.  At the age of 49 years old, Martine Agnant made one of her many dreams come true which was graduating from college. Her motivation to take the initiative to get her degree was achieving a promise more than motivation that she made to herself after she got married that brought her back to school. She told her husband that she wouldn’t let being a wife and mother stop her from getting a degree. Her children knew about her dreams and as they were growing up, they asked when would she take that step. They were passionate about her dreams just as much as she was.

  The first person she did it for was herself ( My confident dolls make sure when going after your dreams you are doing it for yourself before anyone else) than it was her family and friends which would know her schedule and made her stay focus with her studies and homework rather than being on the phone. It wasn’t easy balancing the many roles she played in her personal life while going after her education having to meet deadlines at both work and school. Her mother and husband alleviated the weight off her shoulder many times and she was grateful for that. Her mother would always have a meal waiting for her when she came home from school, her mother wouldn’t even go to bed until she was home from school. Her husband was there 2 nights a week for the last 2 years in the Canadian winter as her private chauffer. 

            (Martine With Her Family)

At the times when it would get hard, she never wanted to give up. This was her dream and by any means necessary she would make it come true. What she disliked the most was group assignments and the only reason why is because it was quite challenging working around everyone schedule. The first day of school wasn't so bad, it was awkward. She do remember seeing a lady that lived on her block which made her at ease but unfortunately she didn't finish with the program. I asked her how did she feel walking across the stage and what was running through her mind?  "I did it, I achieved my goal". All the hard work and the promise she made to herself and her family came true. Her dreams of going back for something she believed in came true as she walked across that stage. 

She never felt it was too late to go back to school, as long as it's something you believed in than it's never too late. She also said she will continue getting an education, there is more for her to accomplish. What advice would you give to those who believe it is too late for them to go back to school because of their age? She said "It’s never too late. My mom went back to school in her early 50’s, I went in my 40’s. I was amazed by the percentage of people returning to school at a certain age.  I have learned so much from their experience". Now that you accomplish what you always dreamed of, what else would you like to accomplish?  Martine said "Take it easy for the summer, enjoy my city, vacation and will come up with a challenge for sure. There is no stopping me, nothing can stop me. when I want something, I go after it." 

Finish the sentence: Confidence is Me she said "because I would like to inspire others to fulfill their dreams. Take risks in order to learn from them and achieve better things. Always do what you believe to be right.  even if others mock or criticize you for it. The best part of my journey is that I was committed, and did all in my power to accomplish my goal". I agree, my point of featuring Martine is to show you that it's never too let to accomplish your dreams and make them come true. 

                     She Did It!!!!!!! 

At times we feel as if it's too late but who said it was? No matter what it is you want to accomplish or go after in life you can as long as your living. If your dreams never came true, blame yourself. You gave up and believed you couldn't do it. How come Martine at 49 years old didn't give up?! You know why she didn't because she believed in herself and kept on pushing to make her dreams come true.  Anything is possible to accomplish and you can be anything you want to be. Don't let anyone tell you that it's impossible to do it, once you believe in yourself then you already have taken the first step of making your dreams come true. I always knew I wanted to be a writer but deep down inside I felt as if I couldn't. I pushed myself and told myself each and everyday that I will become a writer. It wasn't easy but I never  gave up. I became a published author in 2013 and it's just the beginning for me. It won't be a easy journey going for any dream that you're after  and it may be a slow process but quitting won't speed it up. Be patient and trust your journey. Fight for what you believe in and most of all BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, CONFIDENCE IS YOU! 

     A Confident Love From Me To You

                   Xoxo, Yanika 

Be Confident In Your Bathing Suit!

Let’s talk FASHION! The weather is getting warmer and summer is swiftly approaching. You know what that means? Beach Season is in full effect and it is time to bring out the two-piece swimsuits. Yes I said it, “bring out thetwo-piece swimsuits.” For years plus size women have felt confined to themiracle suit, you know, the “tummy-trimming” swimsuit meant to contour the natural shape of a woman and basically make them feel more appealing to society. Ladies it is time to flaunt the curves you have been blessed with. No more hiding your beauty under those giant cover-ups.

3 years ago you couldn't dare me to wear a 2-piece bathing suit. My self-esteem wouldn't allow me; I was scared of what people would say & the stares I would receive. I realized that in order for me to be happy and who I wanted to be, I needed to be confident within myself (hint that's when "Confidence Is You" was born). The comments and stares of others couldn't break me; I had to be myself regardless. I wanted to be free and be happy. I wanted to go to the beach and walk up and down the sand with my big ass and be happy. That's exactly what I did and will continue doing. Remember people will talk about you regardless so why worry about what they will say.

                     (Ashley Graham)

                       (Gabi Fresh)

It is important to be confident in any and everything you wear. Do not limit your style because of what society deems as “beautiful.” YOU are beautiful! Just recently I posted a photo of Gabifresh rocking her two-piece swimsuit, fearlessly and confidently. Gracing the cover of Elle Quebec is plus size model Ashley Graham in a bikini! Confidently curvy these two women are paying no mind to what others have to say about their size and you can too. If you want to wear a bathing suit, head over to Forever 21, H&M, Monif C etc., get yourself a bathing suit, put it on, & rock it being yourself, happy & confident. Like I wrote in the book "Confidence Is You" (which will be republish in Summer 2014, YES "Confidence Is You" has a book if you didn't know), "We limit ourselves as much to wearing what we want to wear that we allow others to outshine us, it shouldn't be that way. We should always shine like the diamond we are, so don't give a bathing suit a stare when all you want to do is wear it. Find one that compliments you & wear it," Be Confident, Be You, Wear your bathing suit proudly, remember Confidence Is YOU!

 

   (Myself Wearing A 2piece From Forver21) 

Here are a few brands that have absolutely FABULOUS swimwear for plus size women:

·      Forever21

·      Monif C

·      Asos Curve

·      Torrid

·      Swimsuits For All

 

If you Dolls know of any other stores comment below!   

     Confident Love From Me To You

             Xoxo Yanika & Kayla 

Pia And Stanley....A Love Story ❤️

It was a beautiful night in the fall season, The date was November 22, 2008 to be exact when two souls would meet for the very first time not knowing they would spend the rest of their lives together. Pia And Stanley both were invited to a group hangout at BBQs restaurant that night, it wasn't love at first sight. However something magical sparked between them two. As the night came to an end they were both curious to know each other more and see where things would go. In Pia mind Stanley was a handsome guy and he told her she was was pretty with beautiful hair before they went their separate ways that night. 

They started dating and as time went on they were getting to know each other better and falling in love.  After being with each other for 3 years while on vacation in Puerto Rico, the day after Pia birthday Stanley said a few words on how much he loves and appreciate her and want to spend the rest of his life with her. Before you know it Stanley was on one knee with a box in his hands asking the love of his life "Pia Would You Marry Me?"  Pia was so surprised and hysterical it took forever for her to respond but of course her answer was "YES". 

What made Stanley so special to Pia was the fact he wasn't a quitter, no matter how rough it gets he always keeps on trying to make her smile. (And that's how it should be my confident dolls). The fact that he is thoughtful and always remembers the little things brings joy  to her heart. Pia knew early on Stanley was the one for her, the way he caters to her and treated her like the Queen she was meant the world to her. He put her first in his thoughts and goes out his way like a real man is suppose to. The way he treats her is how all men are suppose to treat their lady and I agree. 

They were engaged for 2 years and it took about a year and a half to plan the wedding of their dreams. On May 1st, 2014 their special day came where they would come together as one. Luckily for me I was there to witness it, prior to the wedding I didn't know neither one of them. No I wasn't part of a wedding crasher, I went with my boyfriend which knew them personally. The vows ceremony was outside, it was so beautiful. As everyone took their seats and the ceremony started I just knew it was going to be magical. As the music started Pia came walking down the aisle with her father, joy filled my heart. As she walked towards Stanley, I saw  the love he had for her in his eyes. My boyfriend looked at me and said " I know you're going to cry" Lol he knows me so well but I couldn't help it. As they exchange their vows everyone was in tears. It was so special and heartfelt. It was so amazing seeing two people deeply in love sharing their love for one another and making the commitment they had no idea the night of November 22, 2008 would bring them. 

                (Father & Daughter)

After the ceremony everyone went inside for appetizers, to mingle and for drinks after about an hour or so everyone was to told to go upstairs where the celebration would take place. When I walked in the room it was absolutely breath taking. From the decor, the cake, everything was beautiful. The host was off the hook, he made everybody get up and dance our butts off. I know I was getting down, I had a good time on the dance floor. There was a PhotoBooth which I thought was fun and unique. EVERYTHING was just beautiful, I was so happy and thankful to have been one of their guest to witness one of the most important days of their lives. I asked Pia if she could change one thing about the wedding what would she do differently. She said "I wished I would of spend more time in the PhotoBooth and dance more but as long as my guests had fun, then that's what counts" and I had fun ☺️  

At times we go through things in the past making us feel as if we will never find our true love for us to marry and spend the rest of our lives with. Even after I endure  many broken hearts in the past I never gave up on love. I always believed I was just dealing with some frogs and my true prince would find me in due time. Iam in love with the idea of being in love and my faith made me believe. When I met my boyfriend that I am with now, I was broken. I didn't even want to give him a chance but he was patient with me and he made me believe in love again. I allowed him to heal my heart and he did. Now Iam in love with him so never give up on love and don't ever think you aren't good enough for someone to love you and spend the rest of their lives with you. We are all capable of love and we all deserve true love. 

    (One Of The Best Parts Of The Night) 

I asked Pia what would she tell someone scared to be in love and she simply said " Don't be scared to be in love..love is a beautiful thing, and yes there will be some hard times,  as long as the good outweighs the  bad, then you will be fine. But you have to give it a shot,  life is too short to not try something out due to fear" and I totally agree with her. If I had the fear of being in love again I wouldn't be with the person Iam with now. All those unhappy days I shared with my frogs, I am now sharing happy days with my prince. Some may wonder how do I know Iam with my prince now, you're right I don't know where my future will go but I never felt like this for no one else and we're just perfect for each other. I have high hope for us and when you think positive thoughts with someone, everything will follow. 

No relationship is perfect, don't look at Pia and Stanley and say to yourself " I wish I could have what they have". You don't know what they went through while being with each other. We tend to look at others wishing we had what they have when most of the times that person don't even want to be in that relationship anymore. When building a relationship with someone build it for you and that person, not no one else. I also asked Pia since Relationships Aren't Perfect, What is one thing that kept you guys going?! What is one thing that you can tell other couples to keep going when it gets tough?! She answered " Relationships are hard..in fact, its a full time job! However, the one thing that kept us going was the love we have for one another. Its deep, beyond words..and as long as the love Is there, then we will always work out. Also,  communicate is KEY! U never hold back how I'm feeling so if something is bothering me, I get it off my chest right away..if you let it linger, then you will reach your breaking point and explode and that' can cause damage. To all the couples out there, when it gets tough, pray! Ask God to lead u and help you and communicate your feelings to your partner, no matter what! And as long as the good outweighs the bad, then you're ok. Nobody Is perfect, so allow room for improvement, and have realistic expectations. Be fair!"  She's right commutation is KEY, never be afraid to speak your mind and tell your partner what's wrong and prayer do heal all. 

My confident dolls believe in love, I want you to know that you are beautiful inside and out and someone out there if you haven't met him yet is dying to meet you. This is why I wanted to share Pia and Stanley love story to make you realize True Love still exists and if you believe it does then My Queen I can't wait to get a wedding invitation to your special day. 

                    (Myself And Pia) 

Last but not least Pia Confidence Is You because "Confidence is me because I've learned to believe in myself, believe that I can do/be anyone I want...because I have a wonderful husband who is my biggest  fan and believes in me, sometimes more than I believe in myself. Confidence is me because I am unique, there is no one out there exactly like me." 

Thank you Pia and Stanley for sharing your story with Confidence Is You, Thank You for making us all believe in love again. Thank You and I wish you both nothing but the best on this amazing journey of love together. 

       Happy 1 Month Anniversary ❤️ 

     A Confident Love From Me To You

                       Xoxo, Yanika