What About Him & His Insecurities.

When it comes to being in a relationship, people forget that it's not only the female that have trust issues as well as commitment issues. In any relationship both the male and female have issues, not necessarily the same issues but the most common ones are commitment/ trust issues. Have you ever taken a second to think maybe the reason why he is so scared to give you his all is because he gotten his heart broken in the past? Or maybe he doesn't know how to trust anyone? Or even know how to love anyone after being hurt? 

All guys have this pride that they don't want to make it seem as if their weak or emotional. So they have this confidence as if nothing can ever bother them and nothing/ no1 can hurt them but deep down inside they are scared/hurting because of something that happened to them in the past. It's hard for us to commint, but I find it harder for some guys to settle down and give their all to someone once they been hurt before. When guys give their all, they really give their all not saying we don't but they go beyond and above and if you break their heart after being so vulnerable to you, it's a wrap. Their hearts will never be the same again, it will take a while for them to love again as well as trust again but it won't be the same. 

Don't be so hard on him or quick to diss him because he won't commint to you. If this a man that you truly want to be with and love, take the time to know him just like you would him to get to know you. Make him trust you, make him believe that you are indeed different. Take time to listen to him, that's one of the issues we have as females, we never take the time to listen and take time to know them on a deeper level. When I say a deeper level, I mean listening to what he went through while growing up,what adversities he faced, what does love mean to him as well as wanting to know about his future plans. We ask these  questions after the fact that we are with them but it's good to know beforehand. 

Be patient with him as you want him to be patient with you. I talk about this before in previous blogs, when I met my boyfriend I was so broken I honestly thought he was going to leave me alone after almost 2 years of being patient with me. Don't get me wrong he was at a point where he was tired of trying, I was scared. My heart was broken to million of pieces and I was unable to trust anyone with it but he took his time day by day to heal my heart for me to love him one day. I never took the time to get to know him on a deeper level because I was so worried about him hurting me but as time goes on I wish I would of taken the time to get to know him on a deeper level much earlier in our relationship. 

This is why I advise you to get to know him, see where his head it at, don't only think about yourself and worry about what he may do to you. The same worries you have about him hurting you and doing you wrong, he has the same worries too. This is why I asked "What about him and his insecurities?". Don't forget about him as he is in the process of giving you his heart, be mindful that he is also scared. 

Every relationship is 50/50, a relationship grows and builds with both people involve. If you know it's something that you aren't ready for, let it go. The same way you wouldn't want someone to play with your heart, don't play with anyone else's heart. Get to know him, make him trust you if this is what you want and make him believe that giving you his heart was the best choice that he ever made in his life. 

      A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                  Xoxo, Yanika 

Hello, My Confident 30!

It's My Birthday!!!!! I first want to say Thank You God for allowing me to see such an amazing milestone. Iam beyond thankful to embark on this new journey in my life. Yesterday I close a milestone in my life that truly made me the person I am today. I can't even think back to the day I turned 20 years old and now 10 years later I can say Thank You to my 20s and Hello 30. I went through it all in the last 10 years, from heartbreaks, struggles, disappointments to accomplishments, success, and happy moments. 

Throughout those years I learned to be strong, I learned understanding, I learned to truly love myself and be confident within myself. I didn't allow anything to break me, yes I bended but I didn't break. I overcame everything that I went through good and bad and truly learned from it all.  Iam excited for what will come. Iam ready to close this chapter with peace and understanding and start a new beginning which will be my best years to come ( Claiming It). 

I don't know what my 30s have in stores for me but I know that I am ready and just like I did in my 20s I will learn from it all. I have so much to accomplish, so much to do and with God grace I will do it all. I usually et nervous when I turned a new age but with 30 I was excited. Iam beyond blessed and thankful to see myself turn 30 years old.  I just want to say "30, Iam ready for it all, teach me, inspire me, motivate me, help me grow to a better woman that I am today". Cheers to this AMAZING Milestone ahead of me, Hello My Confident 30. 

I want to say a special Thank You to my Best Friend Of Almost 2 Decades for bringing my vision to life by taking my birthday pictures. I wanted to take some pictures to embrace this age and she truly did her thing with these so To A Piece of my heart, Yessenia...Thank You!!! 

I promise to write more blogs with this age Lol. I Love You All. <3. 

    A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                     Xoxo, Yanika. 

Invest In Yourself!

We all have dreams that we want to accomplish, we all have goals that we want to achieve. Will it be easy? No, But we definitely have to work hard to make them happen. It may look easy but in reality it's not. Look at your favorite celebrity, look at their story on how they made  it happen, I bet they won't say it was easy. It take a lot of time, dedication and most of all hard work. 

I see a lot of people with dreams that just sit there and wait for it to happen or for someone to make it happen for them. Guess what? It will never happen for them because dreams don't come true without you putting in the work. Invest in yourself, stop doubting yourself and make it happen. The same effort you put into going to the club, put that effort in making your dreams come true. The same effort you put into unnecessary people that are no good for you, put that same effort  into your dreams.

It's 2016, nothing will come easy and nothing will be easy. PUT IN THE WORK! This is YOUR DREAM and no one else's. Stop waiting on others to make it happen before you know it, 10 years will go by and you will be somewhere that you wish you weren't. Do what is necessary to make your dream come true, you believe in yourself...Don't You? 

You are capable of making your dreams and goals become your reality. I knew from a very young age I wanted to be a writer. At first I didn't know how it was going to happen but I knew one day I would be a writer. Yes at first an opportunity came to me to write my first book, I took it. It was an experience because it didn't last despite the book coming out and all. Did I give up on my dreams but most of all myself? No, I kept pushing. I was determined to come out with my book a second time around, I saved every penny I had, I searched for the best publishing company that would print out my book, I found the best cover designer, I did it ALL.  It wasn't easy especially since I wasn't working but I was determined so I made it happen. It took months but I didn't give up and now my book is doing well and being read by many all over the world. Of course I had doubts, I was scared but I knew that God would be by my side and what is meant to happen, will happen. If I didn't do it on my own, my dreams would be catching dust and I would just live the rest of my life thinking of the "What Ifs". 

In everything that you do there is a hustle and a business to it. If you're into doing makeup and that's your passion, find a way to make it a career. If working out is a passion for you and something that you love to do, then find a way to inspire others and make it a career. I believe that we all have a passion but majority of us are scared or just too lazy. You can make it happen instead of worrying about the lastest gossip but you choose not to go for what you believe in. 

It's not too late if you think it is, make this year be the year that you make your dreams come true and make it happen. Stop waiting for the perfect opportunity, truth is there is no perfect time. You just have to make it happen even if you have to do it on your own. Stop Investing on things that won't benefit you in the long run. Those $600 shoes you want with the matching coat isn't necessary when you have a dream that you truly want to make a reality. Think about it! You can invest that $600 into your dreams and watch it manifest. 

As I always say "BELIEVE IN YOURSELF"..........I believe in you. Stop thinking you aren't capable of making your dreams one tire, Nothing Is Impossible To Accomplish!!!

     A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                   Xoxo, Yanika