Be More Than Just His Girlfriend.

So last night on Snapchat I made a comment saying " Be more than his girlfriend, be his nurse, his chef, and porn star". I feel that a women should cater their man and let him know that they are willing to do what's necessary to make him happy. Of course you have to do all those things for a man that is treating you like the queen that you are. At times we do things for guys that doesn't even deserve it, oh I know those F%@k boys. But as I always say YOU LIVE AND YOU LEARN!, All men aren't the same and that's where some of us fail to realize. All the other guys I dated in the past isn't even close to being the same as my man now, not even close. If I would of assumed that all men were the same, I would of lost out of the opportunity of having a good man in my life. 

Ok back to being more than his girlfriend, Some females feel that they don't have to do it all because that man isn't their husband but if you want him to be your husband, aren't you suppose to do certain things for him to see that you are wife material and you are the one for him.  Oh you think your personally and looks are going to make him get you a ring? It's 2015 and these men are getting smarter and are looking for the right women to settle down with not just a quick F#@k. I know what you want, I know that you know your worth and you want someone to love you the way that you are meant to be loved. 

So Ok, you're his girlfriend, what do you do besides just be his girlfriend? Do you cook for him when he said that he is hungry? Iam not talking about feeding him your vagina or telling him let's go out to eat. Maybe what he need is a nice home cook meal from his girlfriend. I don't care if you aren't the greatest chef in the world because I know Iam not but I know how to cook certain things to make sure that he never goes hungry. THE WAY TO A MAN HEART IS THROUGH HIS STOMACH, is what I've been hearing since I was a little girl. You have to make sure that you know how to boil eggs if he tells you that he is hungry. Some females are so quick to just say "Let's just order take out or go somewhere to eat".  Iam telling you right now, don't do it. You can go online and find easy 123 recipes. Be his chef once and awhile and cook that man a home cook meal. 

He tells you that he sick, what do you do? Be his nurse, that's what you do. Make him some tea, rub his back and his feet, make sure he got his medicine, suck his balls if you have to to make him feel better. Don't just ask him, "how do you feel?". Do what is necessary to make him feel better? Just by making him soup, shows him that you care about his well being. Ladies, guys pay attention to Every THING. Don't think to yourself, just because you asked him, "How he is doing" shows that you care. Put on a nurse outfit if you have to and Take care of YOUR man!!!! 

Now after being his chef and maybe his nurse, put it on him like you never did before. Every time you F#&k him, make sure that it's better than the last time. Don't get lazy, don't get tired, don't think about your insecurities,  just get better and wetter. Make him lose his mind, make him wonder where the hell you got those new tricks from. Don't let anything get in the way of performing your best for you man. Some females feel that because that's their man they don't have to do anything new or just keep doing what they have been doing. You better watch some porn and surprise him from time to time. It's nothing wrong with getting more freakier with YOUR man. 

As his girlfriend you have to wear many hats and that's ok because at the end of the day you want to make him happy and satisfy him in any way you can. Be more than his chef, nurse and pork star. Be the one to push him towards greatness, elevate his mind, body and spirit. Be his cheerleader and keep on pushing him to do better. Don't be just his girlfriend, show him that you are indeed his queen, the queen that he would want to spend the rest of his life with. 

Take Care Of You Man!!!!!!!! 

      A Confident Love From Me To You 

                        Xoxo, Yanika 

Happiness Over Being Perfect.

We live in a world where everyone makes it seems as if everything is perfect. The reality is nothing is perfect and no one is perfect. We all go through it at one point and we all have flaws within ourselves and that's ok. I had to learn that it was ok to not be ok. For years I just wanted everything to be perfect not realizing that it was impossible. I learn to be content with today and not worry too much about tomorrow. I learn that it's ok to have flaws and still be who I am. When you pretend that everything is ok and that you're perfect in a perfect world, trust me you will realize it's not at one point. 

When it comes to relationships, everyone now a days are looking at other people relationships and saying "relationship goals". How are they your relationship goals, if you don't even know their story better yet who they are. No relationship is perfect, shit I know mines isn't. That's ok with me because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We are two people in love that has flaws and are growing together each and every day, we are far from perfect. Maybe perfect for one another but we go through our ups and downs like any other relationship. I wrote about this in a previous blog "No love story is perfect",  you have to want and better your relationship instead of worrying about someone else's relationship. 

You know your worth, you know what you deserve so if this person isn't truly making you happy but you can make it seem as he is for social media, Would you stay with him? A lot of females are doing this just to paint the perfect relationship. Is it worth it? I rather you be lonely and find your own happiness than to pretend that you're happy just so you can make it seem as if you are. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who isn't seeing your worth all for social media. No one is perfect, your favorite celebrities go through it. I swear I always say this Beyoncé and Jay be having their moments, listen to her music. As a writer, majority of the times we write the best when we are in our feelings. I know this, so when they go through it, she writes. 

It's bad enough we live in a world where we are judged from the color of skin to the texture of our hair. Don't sit here and give society more satisfaction all so you can ACT as if everything is perfect. I rather you choose your happiness over being perfect. It's not worth it pretending that everything is perfect when it's not. It's ok, you scared that people would talk or are you scared that you didn't succeed. Doing what is necessary to achieve being happy is succeeding. 

Iam at a point in my life where I just want to grow with my partner and be happy. Iam not with my significant other just so I can paint the perfect picture. Find someone that you can build with and that truly makes you happy and accept you for who you are. If you keep looking for the perfect one, you never will find them because once again in all reality, no one is perfect. People are best to pretend as if they are perfect, everyone have flaws and that's ok. Find someone that treats you like the Queen you are and lives up to your worth. 

       A Confident Love From Me To You

                        Xoxo, Yanika