Confident FITNESS Is YOU.

Hello My Confident Dolls,

Iam NOT a fitness expert, but I am someone that struggles with losing weight. Over the years, I’ve started over a dozen diets so why do I still have this stomach? Why isn’t it flat yet?. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE MYSELF but I refused to be a hypocrite as if  I LOVE EVERY INCH OF ME because truth is this stomach of mines I can’t stand. YES CONFIDENCE IS ME but I just can’t stand to look at my stomach without rolling my eyes. Yes, I wear crop tops from time to time, Yes, I don’t care what anyone has to say about me and Yes, I have a man that rubs it on a daily basis but I HATE MY STOMACH. No one is perfect  and even your favorite celebrity have insecurities as well and also hate something on their body so don’t get it twisted just be true to YOURSELF. 

It's not easy losing weight because if it was so many people wouldn’t be getting all of these weight loss surgeries so quickly to lose weight. NO SHADE, DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO FOR YOU. Iam just saying if losing weight was easy I would of not only got rid of  this stomach of mines but I wouldn’t have to start a new diet every 4-6 months. The crazy thing about it is when I do what I have to do, I lose weight. I know I can do it, I did it before but I get bored eating salad and fruits on a daily basis and shit so I have something Iam not suppose to have such as fried chicken and cajun rice (SooOoO GoOd) but anyways I tell myself “Oh its just for today” and today turns to a week, 2 weeks and then before you know, I done fucked up. 

So I know what Iam doing wrong, I know my flaws when it comes to losing weight but enough is enough. I don’t even tell myself it's a diet anymore, I tell myself this is my HEALTHY JOURNEY. Iam not getting any younger before you know it in just 5 months I’ll be 31 years old, I can’t keep doing what Iam doing to my body and most importantly to my health. I want to have children one day and I don’t want to FAIL them due to my weight, some people may ask how will I fail them? If they want me to play with them and it consist me of running, I don’t want to be out of breath telling them “ Mommy can’t do it” that's how. It’s not easy but I know I have to do it for myself more than anything, I can’t continue feeling the way that I feel, I want to love EVERY INCH OF MY BODY including my STOMACH and actually mean it. 

So August 1st is when my journey will begin, IAM READY!! Iam telling myself I have to do it because Iam MENTALLY prepared to do it. My confident dolls, it is VERY important to be mentally ready when starting a diet because if you’re not, YOU WILL FAIL! It has to be something that you are ready for and prepare yourself for. As I mention before, LOSING WEIGHT IS NOT EASY but IT’s NOT IMPOSSIBLE. You can do it, I can do it and WE will all do it. It may get hard, truth is it will be hard but nothing is too hard to accomplish, everything in life is possible to achieve as long as we work hard for it. 

You’re not a failure, so don’t think that way. Stop wishing to be someone else, just know that everyday is an opportunity to become better and do great things. So together, WE WILL DO IT. As I said before, Iam not a personal trainer, a fitness expert, or a doctor but I know THE REAL STRUGGLES that you go through when it comes to losing weight. I won’t sugar coat anything because I want you to succeed, when you want something more than ever to accomplish your goals, you would make sacrifices to achieve them. You will have many moments where you will find yourself asking “ Why Me?, Why did I have to be fat”, Why is it so hard to lose weight?” How did she lose weight?” and a million more questions will come to mind, but just know IT IS NOW you will do WHAT’s BEST FOR YOU.

So let's get started, I will be doing this challenge for myself for the next 60 DAYS! From August 1st- October 1st. This isn’t a diet for me so I won’t call it that, this is will be my lifestyle from now on. I have to make the proper changes for me to excel and keep on excelling for the near future. Iam not telling you to do the whole 60 days with me, if you want to do it then of course you can. I just want to give you some steps, LOTS OF MOTIVATION and INSPIRE you to keep going no matter how hard it gets. 

READY, SET, GO

> No ALCOHOL..Oh I know it's hard to not have a drink from time to time but do you know alcohol can consume up to 1,000 calories PER DRINK!  I remember cutting out alcohol for 2 months and I lost a lot of  weight. Iam not saying you can't have a drink, you can but you better work your ass off the next day. I prefer you don't drink alcohol at all but if you have one drink, I won't be mad at you. 

>No Juice/Soda..Yeah Juice is good and there is nothing like a cold Pepsi but NO NO NO...I can't allow you to have a drink and juice/soda as well so NO. 

>No Sweets/Junk Food.. Say "see you later" to all of that BS. No candy, no chips or cookies, NO TO FAST FOOD such as McDonald's, Chinese Food, Popeyes etc. 

>Water ONLY ( A Gallon A Day).. yes I know you are going to be in and out the bathroom but you got this and you will get some more steps in for the day. WATER WATER WATER will be your new best friend. 

>Only WHEAT bread, pasta and rice.. ONLY WHEAT, to some wheat is nasty but cook it in a way you will enjoy it. 

>LOTS of fruits and Vegetables.. Hello to your other two best friends, FRUITS AND VEGETABLES. 

> 3 Meals ( breakfast, lunch and Dinner) with 2 snacks ( One between breakfast and lunch and one between lunch and dinner) It can be fruits, nuts, a yogurt (anything on the healthy side). 

This is just  the basics, those that actually  joined  the challenge will be emailed the actual Confident Fitness Plan. 

       A Confident Love From Me To You

                     Xoxo~ Yanika   

Reflecting While In Mexico

It's been a week since I've been back from one of the best trips that I have ever been to with my mother, sister, boyfriend and my sister's boyfriend to Cancun, Mexico. As I prepared to go on this trip I wanted to do a lot of thinking and put things into perspective so when I get back to NY I can do everything that my heart desires. Life is a journey and at times things happen that makes you question, Why Me? Or will it ever work out in my favor? 

Don't get me wrong Iam content with my life, I can honestly say that I am happy. I've been through a lot in my life but right now at this very moment, I am exactly who I want to be and that right there is a lot due to once living my life not being myself at all and the great thing about being who I am, Iam also giving myself room to grow. Each and everyday we have the opportunity to become better and improve who we are, so why give up that opportunity? 

You may not be where you want to be in life but you can't give up. You have to keep moving no matter how hard it gets. I know when things isn't working in your favor, it can be frustrating. One thing that keeps me going no matter what is PRAYER. As I mentioned before in previous posts, PRAYER HEALS ALL! God wouldn't put you in any situations that he knew you couldn't overcome, it's a reason why he put you there just have faith in him and know that better and bigger things it's on it's way for you. 

I reflected a lot about where I want to be in my life, I know what I want to accomplish but at times I doubt myself. I have an amazing brand which I know God put in my life as my ultimate blessings. Here is an example, I went through hell and back which I talk about a lot and I used to always ask God, Why must I go through all the bullshit that Iam going through? But it was clear to me that I went through the things I went  through not only to become who I was meant to be but to help others in the process. Confidence Is You literally saved my life, this is why I have to keep going and never give up on it because I know I have thousands of more people that I can help with as in finding  their confidence, loving themselves and become exactly who they want to be and not being afraid to do so. 

I know Iam capable of accomplishing all of my dreams and goals and doing exactly what makes me happy. I don't know why at times we doubt ourselves of course we are all afraid of failing but with every ending, it comes a new beginning. If we don't try, we will never succeed. I needed to clear my mind, put things into perspective  and tell myself that the time is now, tomorrow isn't promise to anyone. The night before I left to go on my trip, I received the worst phone call ever, a phone call I never wanted to receive, a piece of my heart, someone I loved passed away. I never imagined that I would lose my friend of 16 years but just like that at 29 years old, she passed away. It was as if she told me as I was on my trip "Live your life  and do what makes you happy". 

This was someone that wasn't afraid of anything and didn't care about anyone opinion, she did as she pleased and what made her happy. So I can't continue living this life and not being who I am destined/meant to be as well as not doing what makes me happy or not going for everything that I want. I want to live a life that I want and I deserve without any regrets. I want to be a better person not only for myself but for my love ones as well. I want to be able to do everything I desire to do and not being afraid to do so. Life is a roller coaster and no matter what we must enjoy the ride. A roller coaster never stops, it always keeps going so keep in mind no matter what it is that you are going through, YOU HAVE TO KEEP GOING!!! 

 

(My Family & I stayed at the Hyatt Zilara in Cancun, I must say it was worth it. I gave this resort 5 stars, I would definitely go back there in the near future.)

       

             RIP Marquette Watson 

        A Confident Love From Me To You

                      Xoxo, Yanika 

Stay Still, Have Faith....God Is In Control.

For the past two weeks I've been going through a roller coaster of emotions from being frustrated, hurt, worry to having millions of  thoughts running through my mind. Some days are better than others but what I know for certain is that these emotions that I am feeling won't last forever and I can't allow them to break me. I have to remain strong and continue having faith. I know it's hard to keep a smile on your face and tell yourself everything is going to be just fine when you're feeling as if your world is coming to an end. 

You just have to keep in mind that you're stronger than what you think you are. You're praying that things get better but as the days goes by, you still feel the same way. Trust me, I know it's not easy and then you start losing faith. You can't lose faith, you have to believe in God. He is in control and he wouldn't put you through anything that wouldn't make you better and stronger with a greater blessing at the end of it all. As days goes on, I see a lesson to what Iam going through. Keep in mind everything you go through, there is a lesson to be taught. Of course I don't want to go through these emotions but there's a reason and I have to be strong enough for myself and be still. 

Of course my emotions made me come out of character but that was the devil trying to get the best of me. A little while after I prayed and realized that God has my back and I know that he wouldn't make me suffer without a reason. Of course now I don't fully understand why I am going through these emotions that I didn't even wish for but in due time I will know but I have to hold on strong to my faith. 

So whatever it is that you may be going through, Don't give up. Hold on tight to your faith and keep telling yourself "Everything will be just fine". It may not seem that way right now because you are feeling the way that you are feeling but in due time you will see that the emotions and whatever it is that you are going through is only temporary. Greater and bigger things awaits you but you just have to hold on to your faith and believe that things will get better. Trust in God and keep in mind that you are blessed beyond measures. 

Don't let anything tear you down, fix your crown and trust your faith. SMILE, Don't worry!!! For you and I, I'll pray because one day everything that we are going through are going to be" Remember that time" but look at me now, Thank You God. Hold on to your faith, stay still, pray  and know your worth. 

      A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                     Xoxo, Yanika