P.S....YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL!

 I know it’s hard to love every single part of your body when societies opinion of “what is beautiful” is a list of what you don’t have/what you have. See the thing is all of us have flaws, none of us are perfect. We all wish something on our bodies can be different or we can change something about ourselves to make us feel beautiful and confident. It took me years to love myself because society made me believe that being “ fat “ was the worst thing to be in the world. They made me feel that in order to be beautiful and to be confident, I needed to be a certain size. Deep down I loved who I was but I was afraid of completely being myself because of what others would think. 

I started to find myself being unhappy and more depressed simply because I couldn’t be myself. In this crazy world we live in, the best thing that you can be is to  BE YOURSELF without giving two cents about what others may think of you. I knew in order to be completely happy, I needed to be myself and I didn’t care of what others thought of me. I know people that were around me thought  I was being myself because no matter what I always kept a smile on my face but deep inside I was wishing on being someone else or covering my arms and stomach so others wouldn’t see all of my “fat”. I was ashamed but was I really? Thinking now, I wasn’t ashamed of myself but I was ashamed of what others would think of me. 

It took years for me to not care of what others would think, I needed to be happy, I deserved to be happy. I needed to be myself around others and not wish the time would go by fast so I could go home. Yes, I have extra rolls on back back and two stomachs. Yes, my arms are big but my ass match HA. Yes, I am not the average weight of what society thinks is beautiful but I am ME. No matter how you look, they will find something to say about you so what’s the point of pretending on being someone else and making yourself unhappy because of people “OPINIONS” of you. 

Be Yourself and Love Yourself, God Created you and to him you’re perfect. As I mentioned we are all not perfect but we Matter, we are worth it and we are important. Don’t live in a bubble to make others happy, Live for you. If they is something you don’t like about yourself then fix it and make a change but don’t put yourself down to the point you wish you were someone else. I regret not living for me in the past, I let years go by not being happy for the opinions of others but I learned to love myself as well as appreciate who I was so I can completely be myself without having to pretend to be anyone else. It didn't happen overnight and years later I struggle at times but one thing is for sure I will not be anyone else but MYSELF. If anyone can't accept me for who I am then they aren't meant to be in my life.

It’s Sad How Many Women Don’t Feel Beautiful Because They Feel Like They Don’t Meet Society Standard Of “What’s Beautiful”. You Don’t Have To Have A Flat Stomach, Big Butt, Designer Things, Etc To Be Beautiful Or To Be Popping. You’re Beautiful In Your Own Way, Stop Letting Social Media Make You Feel Otherwise. We Are All Beautiful, We Are All Talented, We Are All Blessed, We Are All Worth It & We Are All The Sh*t  In Our Own Way. Society Will Try To Break You Down & Make You Feel Like You’re Not Important In This World, When You Are. Stop Letting Others Bring Down Your Self Esteem & Find  Confidence Within Yourself So You Can Be Who You Are  Without Giving A F*ck Of What Others Think Of You. Don’t Wish To Be Someone Else Or Praise Someone Else When The Most Beautiful Person You Can Be Is YOU. Be Confident, Be You, You’re Beautiful, You’re Worth It, You Matter & You’re The Shit No Matter How You Look. Don't Forget about yourself and live your life being exactly who you want to be, You're Beautiful and Don't you ever forget that. Smile!

                     

                                             A Confident Love From Me To You
                                                              XOxo Yanika 

Take Care Of YOURSELF!

Hello My Queens, 

It's been awhile since I've written a blog post but I just needed time to get some aspects of my life in order. I honestly feel taking time for yourself to reevaluate things in your life is necessary. At times we get so caught up that we don’t even take a second for ourselves to just think. I’ve learned that taking care of yourself is a MUST as well as putting yourself FIRST.  We must take care of ourselves mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally to be the BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES daily. 

On July 1st, I decided to take some time off from social media, I just felt like I was losing a piece of who I am in a way. I was starting to compare where I am in life with others on social media and questioning God to why Iam not where I want to be. I dislike feeling that way and I knew I needed to take a few days or weeks away from Social Media to get my mind together. I know that my time will come in due time when God said it’s time and I also know someone else’s journey isn’t mine. But still I just felt down and I knew that I needed to take time to take care of ME. I’ve dealt with depression in the past and once I feel a bit down, I do what I need to do for me so I don’t feel anything else but HAPPINESS. 

Life isn’t easy and we all go through our ups and downs but it is important that we don’t allow Life or what we go through take away the best out of who you are. No matter what you have to keep pushing and do what is needed in order to be HAPPY. I go through shit and I wish things were different in my life but this is my journey and this is the book that was written for me by God. What is meant to be will always be, we just have to be grateful for it all. Iam thankful for the things that I went through, it made me stronger and Iam already thankful for the things that I will go through in the future because it will only make me better. 

Don’t forget about YOURSELF, Do what you have to do for you, don’t depend on anyone else to take care of you and to make yourself  happy. Take yourself out on a date, do something that makes you happy, hang out with people that makes you happy and want nothing but the best for you. Self care is important and that’s how you blossom more into who you are meant to be in life. You got this, you can and you will. Quit doubting yourself and find a balance  so you can be satisfy with everything going on in your life. 

As much I love to catch up with what is going on with Social Media, I love me more and is more concern with who I am and evolving in my journey. Instead of being on social media every chance I get to “keep up” with what everyone is doing, Iam going to dedicate that time into what Iam suppose to be doing for me such as writing more blogs. I must do what’s best for me. I know taking time to take care of  myself, I will be just fine. Take care of yourself and don’t you ever forget that you Matter, you’re Worth It  and you’re Important . 

                            

                               A confident love from me to you

                                             XoXO,Yanika