Be In Love With..........

If someone was to ask you, Who are you in love with? What would be your first response. Most women wouldn't even think of saying themselves but they would be quick to say the name of their significant others first. Over the years I've learned that the only person that you should love first and unconditionally is YOURSELF. 

I can admit and I know I've written this before in previous blogs that there was a point in my life where I didn't love myself. I hated myself so much that I have scars on my arm to remind me each and everyday on when I almost took my own life away. As I look at the scars daily on my arm, it makes me love myself even more and reminds me to never get to the point that I hate myself again. 

Why don't you love yourself? But you can love others. You have to be able to love yourself entirely so you can love someone else. We fail to realize that and when we give our all to others, we take away from loving ourselves even more. It's a priority to love yourself first, it is your duty to make sure that you love yourself more than you love anyone else and that includes your mother and father. Of course love God, he is the reason why you're here so for me I love God the same as I love myself. He didn't have to give me another chance to go on with life but he did so I will always be thankful for him as I should. 

We at times hate ourselves for not being where we are in life or for how we look. I know, I've been there to the point I hated myself more and more when sh*t didn't go right or if I didn't like how my body looked. I hated myself for not being where I wanted to be in life, I just felt like time was going and I was just stuck and I hated myself because society made me hate myself. They made me feel that plus size wasn't the right size and being plus size was some type of disease. I hated everything about me and everything around me. 

It took a very long time for me to get to where I am now but with prayer and patience, I learned to love myself unconditionally and put myself first. I realized that I mattered the most and I needed to not only do what's best for me but I needed to take care of myself mentally, psychically, and emotionally. I needed to do everything that will make me happy. I have my days when I feel down, Iam human. But even I when I feel this way, I remind myself that I will be just fine. 

You have be in love with yourself even when things doesn't go right and even if you don't like the extra fat on your body. No matter what you have to be confident and love every single inch of you. We already live in a world where we are judged for everything, from our skin tone to the texture of our hair. When we put ourselves down and not love ourselves the way we should. We give them an opportunity to keep on breaking us down, If we showed them that we were confident, we loved ourselves and they couldn't break us down then they wouldn't go so hard to break us down. 

Love Yourself My Confident Dolls, Be In Love with who you are and the person you will become. Stop hating on the most amazing creation God created which is YOU. Did you ever think that you are a blessing and not a mistake. Even if times get rough and you aren't where you want to be in life. Even if you aren't at the weight you wished to be, you're still beautiful and you matter. To complete be in love with someone else or even be able to love someone else you have to first be in love with yourself. 

THE BEST LOVE IS SELF LOVE, Be In Love With........YOURSELF! 

  

   A Confident Love From Me To You 

                   Xoxo, Yanika. 

Confident Pleasures.

It's been awhile, you're frustrated...sexually frustrated to be exact. You just want a night of pleasure but there isn't anyone you can call to bring that freakiness out of you. Even the thoughts of your favorite celebrity turns you on, you can feel the wetness between your legs as you picture the things you wish you can do to them. It's to the point that you're thinking of calling an ex, but it's not worth it but all you want is to release this frustration as you cum multiples times in ecstasy. 

We all been there, sex is amazing especially when you're doing it with someone that knows how to work the insides of you. Not every stroke is the best stroke so when you have someone that makes you gasps for air and makes you see stars as he goes up and down inside of you, Girl lonely moments will have you the most frustrated. But why wait for him/her to make you feel good? Ever thought of satisfying yourself? Oh I know, are you scared? 

Don't worry, there was a time that I was scared to satisfy myself. I used to think it was actually nasty to pleasure yourself until one day I did it. Iam a very sexual person, I love to be satisfied and I love sex, ( I can honestly have sex everyday, which I don't but I can Lol) but I've always been this way. There were many times, I was beyond frustrated and thinking back, some of my relationships that I was in was mostly because of the pleasures. I knew that there was no future with them but a girl needed to be satisfied not realizing I was only lowering my worth as I let them in just so I can feel good. 

Once I started feeling this way, I knew I couldn't deal with guys just for sexual pleasures so for a while, I wasn't doing anything but I have needs so I had to think of a way to make me feel good without lowering my standards for a quick satisfaction. One night I just did it and it was amazing. Don't think of it as being disgusting, remember you're playing with your kitty kat so what's disgusting about it. Put some music on, relax your body and your mind and just start playing with your clit with the tip of your finger. Don't start off doing it fast, like I said relax your mind and your body and be gentle with it. Think about your favorite celebrity if you have to but just relax as you start playing with it, start to go a little faster. The more gentle you are as you start off and you go a little faster, the more it will feel good. 

One finger, two finger, whatever it is you desire to make you feel good. Grab your breast if you have to, make it fun. Get some toys to enhance this experience even more. There are nothing wrong with toys, I don't have a big collection of toys but I do have a toy and I whip it out when I need a quick satisfaction.  I honestly don't see anything wrong with pleasuring yourself and making yourself feel good. I would rather do what is necessary to make me feel good than to lower my standards and make someone that isn't even worthy of having me make me feel good. Most of us ladies will lay on our back with someone that isn't even good enough to have a stiff  of our diamonds but because we are horny and in need, we settle. 

Girl, play with your kitty kat until it's so wet that your own fingers is slippering out of it. Yes, I said it. You can't just be confident, you have to be freaky as well. Stop looking for a man to satisfy your EVERY needs, you can be independent in all areas in of YOUR life. I remember one of my cousin said " you don't need a man to make you rich or to make you cum". She was so right, you have to be able to be the independent queen that you are and be able to satisfy yourself after a long day at work. 

 

Don't be afraid to satisfy yourself, don't be afraid to do things that will make you feel good. Don't wait for anyone to give you what you need, if in need close your eyes and play with yourself. There is honestly nothing wrong with playing with yourself and making yourself feel good. Don't settle to get satisfied by someone who doesn't appreciate you when you can satisfy yourself with the own beat of your fingers. 

      

   A Confident Love From Me To You

                     Xoxo, Yanika 

No Love Story Is Perfect!

We live in a generation where everything is broadcast on social media, from what kind of jobs we have,  the food we eat, what we  wear and our relationship with our significant other. Some flaunt as if everything is perfect when truth is nothing in life is perfect. That is something I had to learn because I won't lie I used to wish to have what others have. In due time I learned that wishing for what others have will only hide your blessings and besides it's best to wish for what God has in stores for you. 

Social Media can make everyone love life look like a fairy tale story, don't get me wrong iam not saying all relationships are bad. I know for a fact no relationship is perfect, you will go through the ups and downs with your significant other. I will never say that my relationships in the past were perfect and my relationship now is perfect. The relationship that I am in now is what matters and we go through our shit but our ups outweighs the downs. We will never have the perfect relationship but the love that we have for each other surpasses anything that we may face while we are committed to one another. 

Not even your favorite celebrities have the perfect relationship, oh you think Beyoncé and Jay Z, Gabrielle and Dwayne don't argue and go thought shit. If you don't, think again. They have their moments, they don't show it but they have their moments. You can't wish to have someone else's relationship, you don't know what others go through in their relationship. Some portray to have the perfect love story when in reality they don't, they just want to show something that isn't real to make others think as if what they have is perfect. 

The only relationship I want is the one God wants for me, the only relationship iam focusing on is the one I am in now. Iam not focusing on other relationships, iam just here doing what I have to do to make my relationship better and much stronger than what it is now. When you focus on what others have, you will lose focus on what you have. 

You shouldn't want anyone else's relationship but your own, we all want someone to make us happy and to treat us how we are suppose to be treated. We all derserve  to be loved as I always say, everyone should  be loved or miss out the opportunity to love. Relationships are hard, they have their ups and downs. Every relationship is like a roller coaster but you have to be in one that is worthy of having you in it. 

Be patient for the love you deserve, be patient for the relationship that is meant to be yours. Don't be patient to have someone else's relationship, no one relationship should be your relationship goals. No relationship is perfect, every relationship have their moments, I know mines do but when it's something worth fighting for you will overcome it. Don't rush to be loved or to love just so you can have a relationship like some else, just be patient and the right relationship for you will come unexpectedly with the one meant for you. 

    A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                     Xoxo, Yanika 

Why Worry? Just Pray.

We all don't have the perfect life, we all face obstacles in our lives that makes us question ourselves, how am I going to overcome this?. What I've learned in life is that we are stronger than what we think we are, we will complain, worry, stress and cry our hearts out not evening knowing that we are strong enough to overcome it. 

I've dealt with so many things in my life, from the lost of my grandparents but most importantly my grandmother which there isn't a day that I don't think of her, from getting my heart broken over and over, ( this heart of mines is strong as a steel for how many times it got broken), to cutting myself numerous of times on my arm being that  I felt that I wasn't worthy enough to live anymore, I went through hell and back and couple years ago I wouldn't even picture writing a blog about being strong and holding on to your faith. 

For every obstacles you face, there is something bigger and greater waiting for you at the end of the tunnel. The problem is we don't believe there is so as we worry, we lose faith and hope. We stop believing, we give up on our strength and we are at the verge of giving up. I've been there many times before but each and every time I would worry myself to the point I drove myself crazy, months later I would see that it was nothing to worry about. God just wanted to challenge me and see how I would handle the situation. He wanted to see if I would of given up or trusted in him. 

I never gave up but I doubted him and at the end of it all, he always proved me wrong. So now and I won't say its easy because it's not. We are human beings and we have feelings so it's not easy not worrying about any situation that we may be facing but it's easier to give it to god and have faith in him. Instead of questioning why you are going through what you are going through? Ask him, is this blessing going to be better than the last one. 

Everything we go through, makes us STRONGER! As I said before certain situations I went through in life, I questioned day and night but now that I look back at it, Iam thankful that I went through it all. It build me up to be who I am today and who I will become tomorrow. I've been dealing with something for the past few weeks ( I will talk about it when iam ready to) and everytime I would shed a tear, I reminded myself that I was stronger than that but at the same time I learned a lot from the situation. 

There is always a lesson in everything we go through, we just have to be still and see what the lesson is. Despite the situation hurting me it actually taught me a lot. I trust God and I know that everything will be just fine at the end of it all. I was worried but why worry when I can just pray. We really have to believe in the trials and tribulations we go through in life but as well believe in ourselves.

Prayer heals all, things may not be how you want it to be but you have to hold on tight to your faith. As Heather Lindsey (author) once said "God Will Never Leave You Stranded", and the truth is he won't. Stop worrying, stop stressing, stop doubting yourself and dry your eyes. You got this, you will overcome whatever it is that you are facing. It may not be tomorrow but in due time at the right time you will overcome it. 

As I pray for myself day and night, I also pray for you. Learn to pray for those around you as well, everyone needs a prayer. Next time when you feel like worrying just take that time to PRAY.

      A Confident Love From Me To You 

                    Xoxo, Yanika