Friday, July 31, 2015

A Confident Fashionista In Jamaica Name Yanika!!! All Outfits Under $100

I came, I saw, I conquered, 5 days in Jamaica was exactly what I needed and I have to admit one of the best vacations I ever went on. For months I've been planning this trip with MJ,  it was always my dream to go there and we made it happen. The main reason we went is for one of MJ good friends wedding but I promise from the time we landed to the time we left, every minute was worth it. 




I felled in love with Jamaica within 10 mins of being there, the view there is beyond amazing. The mountains, the palm trees, the blue skies to the clear crystal blue water, everything was beyond beautiful. We landed in Montego Bay and had to drive about an hour and a half to get to our resort (Beaches Resort) in Negrils. At first I didn't like the fact we had to drive so far to get to our destination, after a long flight I just wanted to get checked in and start having  fun. But the drive was absolutely worth it because we got to see different parts of Jamaica. From shopping malls, the beauty parlor, the barber shop, fast food restaurants and so much more. It was different from what Iam used to seeing on a everyday basis but seeing those areas made me appreciate everything I have even more. 


 I Saw Places That Broke My Heart But Seeing People On The Street Smiling and Laughing Made Me Smile Because Despite Of Their Circumstances They Are Living Life. They May Not Have It All But They Are Thankful For It All. Our Tour Guide Michael Said " Some People  Don't Have Cars So They Walk Miles and Miles To Get To Where They Are Going But They Are Thankful and Walk With Happiness Because God Woke Them Up This Morning So They Are Thankful For The 2 Feets They Have" We Complain Abt The Smallest Things When Some Don't Have Anything. My Heart Is Full & Already This Trip Was A Life Changing Experience For Me. 


5 days wasn't enough but we made every second count, from going to the club, the pool, the beach and enjoying the fact we had unlimited drinks and food. OMG I was in heaven with those rum punch and bob Marley drinks. I knew that I had to go to Jamaica and give them nothing but curves and beauty. I had to show them how we run it in New York and what having confidence is all about. I wanted to be bold, wear colors, be classy but with a few touches of sexy with a whole lot of confidence of course. 


             (My Lover, My Best Friend)

I went on a Jamaica shopping spree, I promise you I brought so much clothes, half of the clothes I had in my suitcase I didn't wear lol. But I wanted to be comfortable, fashionable, be able to write about  each outfit and of course all of them once again was all under a $100.


As I said before you don't need to spend a lot of money to be fashionable, you can still be fashionable with a budget and all so I wasn't going to go over my budget for this trip. I knew that I would slay with confidence in each of my outfits all under a $100 and Honey I slayeddddd. 




First dress I wore was an all white dress for the all white dinner/party. For months I was searching high and low for the perfect white dress and I couldn't find one that I loved until I saw this particular dress. The funny story is I saw this dress on one of my friends, plus size model Jezra M and I texted her asking her where did she find the dress. She told me Fashion to Figure, went online SOLD OUT. The next day went to the store SOLD OUT, I was annoyed at this point but there is a God. Jezra sold me the dress, it's original price was $42 but I paid $20. Talk about saving and having the dress I wanted. I had purchased the perfect heels for it but because of the dinner being on the beach I paired the dress with some gold sandals I purchased at Call it Spring For $30. The gold chain is from forever 21 and I paid $5.50, it was buy one get the other one half price. 


Total Cost: $55.50 with A Priceless       Background <3


When it came down to purchasing bathing suits, I knew I wanted colors and I wanted to let the cellulite be seen as I walk my confident self up and down the beach with no cares in the world. It took years for me to feel and be confident so I will flaunt this cofidence honey. 

    


Both bathing suit tops from Forever 21 for $13.80 and both bottoms originally $15.90 but paid $11.80 for them. Another win and the leopard skirt was custom made for me by the beautiful and talented Angelica who is coming out with her own skirt line called skirt for all. I loved this skirt and so did everyone else. 



This look was sexy, very sexy and oh so confident in my crop. I wore this look to the club. It's crazy how 2-3 years ago you wouldn't dare catch me wear a crop top as well as some shorts. But Iam more confident than ever and I will wear what I want to not caring of what others may think. 

Crop top: Forever 21 $11.80 and Shorts: Forever $14.90. One sexy look for just under $30. 


This dress I felled in love with it the first time I saw it, ever had a piece of clothing call your name? Well this dress was screaming my name. I was waiting awhile for plus size model Nadia Aboukholns to come out with her clothing line for Boohoo official, I knew her pieces was going to be fabulous. So when I saw this yellow sexy dress calling my name, I had to have it. 

I never wore a yellow dress before but as I said before I had to step out my comfort zone and besides I loved all the details of this dress. It's sexy, screams confidence and with shipping and handling, I paid under $30 for it. Once again I win, Iam telling you ladies spending hundreds to be fabulous isn't worth it. 

When it came down to get a dress for the wedding, I just didn't know what to wear. For 2 months I was looking for a dress, simple but sexy as well. I couldn't find anything that I loved. As I was going through different online boutiques I found this dress, I love it. I wanted MJ and I to match and this dress matched perfectly with what he was going to wear

When the dress came in the mail, it wasn't the color I thought it would be. Online the pink was much darker, I never wore anything neon pink so I was on the hunt again for another dress to wear to the wedding. I loved the dress but I didn't want to wear it for the wedding. Well guess what I ended up wearing it, I loved it and it fit perfectly on me. I brought the dress from Posh Shoppe which is an online boutique, I paid the dress $34.99 with shipping and handling $40. Another fabulous dress for less than $100



For months I said I wanted to get a bathing suit custom made with it saying "Confident Curves" on the front, yes honey I wanted to make a statement with my confident curves, let Jamaica know how I do it. I couldn't find the bathing suit anywhere till 3 days before I left but I got it done. My Friend Neville came up with the design and the very first piece from the Confidence Is You collection was made. Not only did I feel confident but I also felt empowered because these were my confident curves. I wore the bathing suit to our Waterfall excursion. What an amazing experience that was to share with MJ. We truly had an incredible time with others sharing that moment. It was honestly after the wedding the best part of the trip. Bathing Suit $20 and to get it customized $15 so once again under $100 to be sexy and confident. 




I wanted a statement dress, I wanted a dress to have people break their necks as I walked on by so on our very last night in Jamaica, I knew I needed to bring it to make my final statement in Jamaica. This Dress was it and I felled in love with it the first time I saw it online. Of course I got it right away and it was what I wore for MJ & I special night. I got this dress from Stacked Apparel online boutique. I found them on Instagram and Guess what? Yup another win for under $100, I paid this dress $19.99 with shipping and handling $26.00. I was sexy and confident in it as well as beautiful



I wanted to feel beautiful as I am, I wanted to feel confident as I am, I wanted to feel sexy as I am and I wasn't going to go over my budget to do so. Ladies as I said before you don't have to spend hundreds to look and feel good. Find what works for you and spend what you can afford. I can afford to spend way more on an outfit but I choose not to. I spend what I feel like spending and I look great and feel great with my clothes being under a $100

I know I wrote a lot, I couldn't help it but it was great writing about my trip and all my outfits details to share with you guys. Be Confident, Be Comfortable In What You Wear and Always Remember Confidence Is YOU!! 


 A Confident Love From Me To You
                Xoxo, Yanika 

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Your Confident Kitty!

What are you so scared of? I get it, your thinking to yourself " you're too heavy to sit on his face". Girl, do I have to repeat myself " under every gut there is some good p*ssy". I wrote about this before in previous blogs but I have to say it again. Too many women let their insecurities come in the way of them being satisfied and getting a good nut. Why even sleep with someone that you aren't comfortable with? 


Trust me I get it, I've been there. To the point I wouldn't even have sex with my shirt off. I know how you feel, you're probably thinking " if I take my clothes off, will he still like me " or "what if Iam too big for him and he gets turned off". Those same question and more came  across my mind millions of times and once I thought of them, I would shut down. I wasn't comfortable with sex until about 2 years ago, I mean butt naked comfortable. I just couldn't do it,  my insecurities was getting in the way of me being confident sexually. I love sex and love to be pleasured but those thoughts of my insecurities always crossed my mind. 


F#%k your insecurities and be confident and freaky. So what if you have rolls and your stomach is big. Girl you better incorporate them, make your rolls what he holds on to as you throw it back like a quarter back and your stomach as a pillow after you done putting it on him. You want to be satisfied and have a good time, right?! So let go of what I call the devil, seriously cause the only thing insecurities do is make you think negatively about yourself. 


It's no reason why you should be scared regardless of your weight. You're making yourself think that something is wrong with you each and every time you let your insecurities take over. Don't let your insecurities win over you being satisfied. It doesn't matter who you're with and how much you weigh, be yourself!!! Let him see all of you, besides a man love when we give them all of us. It kind of turn them off when we don't. So stop being afraid, stop holding back. 


I always say this if you're not comfortable being butt naked around him, why even sleep with him? Any man that you can't be yourself around, isn't meant to get to know you that deep. He isn't suppose to know  how it feels to be inside of you. Be comfortable enough to be naked in front of him before you open your legs and give him a piece of your treasure. 



My confident dolls, don't let your insecurities win, don't let them take over you. Know that you're beautiful, know that you're worth it, you matter. Fuck what anyone has to say, don't let your weight be an issue or get in the way of you being happy. I realized most of my sad days were based on how I felt about myself, scared of what others would say things about me. But each time those little devil insecurities try to pop up in my head, I remind them that " Iam The Sh*t". 


You remind yourself daily that you are worth it and you are enough to get your kitty licked without having any insecurities pop up in your mind. If he is someone one that you care for  or feeling, put your insecurities away and put that confidence on him or her. ( Confidence Is You Doesn't Discriminate) but yeah put that confidence all the way on them. Stop letting your insecurities come in the way of you being freaky. As I always say BE CONFIDENT, BE FREAKY! Don't let your weight or anything else come in the way of you being satisfied. Know your worth, spread your legs and go to sleep happy. 



 A Confident Love From Me To You
                Xoxo, Yanika 

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Fashionista Wednesday, A Diva With Confidence & Ambition Featuring Halle Deneen

Are you ready for today’s fashionista? I know I usually do this particular segment on the blog on Fridays but why not to it today. Check out Halle Deneen: Hailing from the city of Baltimore, MD, Halle describes herself “that 19 year old weird, sweet, crazy, funny, outgoing but shy, family oriented, goal driven model.” That’s right! Not only is she a full time model, but also a full time, straight A student at Howard University who has fabulous fashion sense! For months I've been following her on Instagram and fall in love with her even more for her drive and ambition.  Learn more about Halle below.
 


When did you decide that you wanted to model? And Why?
 
Well, I started modeling at a very, very, very young age and when I first started I was just doing it for fun and because EVERYONE in Baltimore at the time was a "model" so I just had to see what the hype was about. I started to take it more serious and develop a portfolio when I was in the 7th grade. It literally took me years to start getting noticed more due to rejection, but as I grew older I started to see a lack of plus size in the industry. I've always been an advocate for self-love and so I took that energy and put it into my modeling to make a difference in the industry 
 
 
You are accomplishing many things at the age of 19, what keeps you motivated to continue to chase your dreams even when things get difficult?
 
Honestly, I am motivated by a lot in my life. My family, friends and my supporters really motivate me to keep going and to never give up. When I first started, I got cyber bullied and rejected so many times. But I took that and channeled it as motivation as well. It pushed me to prove people wrong, to make everyone who didn't want to work with me, want to work with me. I wanted to grow and prove not only to my family, friends, and supporters but also to my CITY that anything is possible when you work hard. In addition, I always put God first, which helps me strengthen my faith. With God first, I know there is nothing that I cannot handle.
 
I understand that being a model you get access to an abundance of clothes, some that you may wear and some that you may not. So how would you describe your personal style?
 
Ohhhhhhh lorddddd, if I had to describe my personal style I would honestly say that it depends on my mood. I can wake up one day and serve sweatpants, tennis shoes, a tee shirt and sunglasses (I wear sunglasses all year round btw) or I can serve something more upscale, chic, bohemian, etc. I like to try different things. I don't like to wear what I think people would like to see me in but rather what is comfortable and makes me happy. 
 
“I wanted to grow and prove not only to my family, friends, and supporters but also my CITY that anything is possible when you work hard”
 


What do you love most about fashion?
 
I love that fashion is what you make it! It is honestly one of those things that you can make YOUR OWN. To me and most others, it's my form of self-expression. And I appreciate that. When we find that we can express ourselves through the things that we wear it evokes confidence within us.
 


Being a full-time model, student, and maintaining a fabulous wardrobe must be difficult. How do you manage to travel back and forth for work, get straight A's in school and still find time to look amazing?
 
I will say that managing a full time model and student is HARD WORK. Sometimes I don't even know how I do it. It takes a lot of focus and prayer. It's tough because those are my two main priorities so sometimes I have to choose one over the other and it's HARD. (Plus I'm a Libra and we are so indecisive, which makes it 10x harder to make a decision).  It is also important to keep up with my image and maintaining a good wardrobe. I love to shop so I ALWAYS make time for shopping. I tend to do more online shopping during the school year just because I am so much busier. For anyone who is balancing the two it is important to establish a relationship with your professors and let them know what is going on at all times. Not only will they appreciate it, but they will understand if you have a few late assignments or anything of that nature.
 
“I love that fashion is what you make it!”
 


What is your go-to fashion piece? Why?
 
My fashion go-to piece would have to be high waisted jeans. I absolutely love high waisted jeans! They make me feel so much sexier than regular jeans do! 
 
Where are your favorite places to shop?
 
Some of my top places to shop would be Zara, Asos, Carmakoma, H&M, American Apparel, & Boohoo.
 

Classes are almost a month away what is your must have Back to School Item?
 
My must have back to school item is a PLANNER. I'm the type of person that writes EVERYTHING down. My planner has everything from school, to personal, to modeling; it literally holds my life together.
 


What do you hope to achieve in the future?
 
In the future I honestly just hope for growth. Growth in modeling, growth in school, growth in acting, mental growth, spiritual growth, and financial growth. I want to expand and build my empire.
 
Did you ever lack confidence or deal with low self-esteem? If yes how did you overcome it? 
 
My advice would be: you are good enough, and to be a model. The first step is believing that, and not letting anything come between you and your dreams. You have to have the drive, the courage and the confidence! 
 
“The first step is believing that, and not letting anything come between you and your dreams.”
 
What advice do you have for women who may want to model, but feel like they aren't good enough?
 
I've dealt with low self-esteem when I first started modeling. This was because I was rejected so many times and I didn't think that I would make it because plus size modeling was not flourishing as much as it is now back then. Also, I didn't have much of any support, which didn't help with my confidence at all. I literally had to wake up each day, look in the mirror and tell myself that I was beautiful and FLAWLESS. I told myself that so much that I got to a point where I accepted all of my flaws. When you accept your flaws no one can use them against you. I have been exuding confidence ever since
 

You are such an inspiration to many, what would you like to see change in the plus size community towards women? 
 
The industry has changed so much, it is so beautiful to see women of all shapes and sizes showcase their curves and have so much courage to be unapologetic about themselves it's amazing. I would like to see MORE of that from MORE plus size women. There are still women who lack confidence and are ashamed of themselves. I would also love to see more plus size clothing stores. 
 
“It is so beautiful to see women of all shapes and sizes showcase their curves and have so much courage to be unapologetic about themselves…”
 
Finish this Sentence: Confidence is me because ______________________
 
Confidence is me because I am fearless and I am in love with the person that I have become! 


What a beautiful soul she is, being so young she is following her passion and living out her dreams. My Confident Dolls, don't give up, keep on pushing. Don't live in regret and don't think that it's not possible. Anything and everything is possible to achieve. 

Halle My Dear, Thank You so much for being part of "Confidence Is You". You are truly a representation for this brand and every young girl that dreams big. I wish you nothing but the best and success. Always know "Confidence Is You" is here to support you. If you want to be inspired by Halle, Follow her on Instagram @halledeneen. 


     
    A Confident Love From Me To You. 
                 Xoxo Yanika & Kayla 

Friday, July 17, 2015

Want & Create Your Own Kind Of Love, Not Someone Else's Kind Of Love.

Why want someone else's love when you can create your own? Lately I've been seeing a lot of people wish and want someone else's love besides their own. Yes you can wish to have a magical love like others but wish to have your own magical love story that you can create with someone that loves and appreciate you for you. Every love story doesn't start with others, it's starts with you. 

In all reality no love is perfect, every couple goes through the ups and downs. Every couple may love each other but every day isn't perfect. If someone ever tell you their relationship is perfect than someone is doing something they are not suppose to do in the relationship. Ok, maybe not but there is no way a couple can just be perfect. Jay-Z & Beyonce isn't perfect, every couple go through sh*t. They may make it seem like everything is perfect but you never know what goes on behind close doors. Not everything that goes on in your relationship needs to be broadcast on social media or for the world to know. 


No relationship I have been in has been perfect, most of them wasn't even close to perfect. The relationship Iam in now have been the closest thing to perfect. We go through sh*t which is normal, we don't argue a lot. We just have little disagreements which is Ok. We are not perfect and we can admit that but we balance each other out which makes us perfect for each other. I always prayed that I would meet someone that can make my love story my own. I've started love stories in the past but not all love stories last forever, I had to end the book on most. My love story now is just the beginning, after 2 years everyday is an adventure. I don't know where it will lead but it's my very own story not co-starring no one else but us. 


We  all want to be in love and loved, do you think you aren't worthy of love? Do you look at others kind of love and say to yourself you aren't enough or your aren't worth it to find that kind of love? If you're thinking that way, you're already putting negativity towards the love that you are meant to have. I know the feeling, I've been there. Your homegirl is in a relationship, she's happy and all but you're home alone wishing that you was her to experience the kind of love that she is experiencing. BE PATIENT!!!! Stop rushing for love to find you or looking for love. When the time is right and when you least expect it, love will find you. 


I believe when you let Love find you, things are even more magical. I know it sucks being lonely but trust me when I tell you it will be worth it when you have it. PRAY!!!!! Stop believing and thinking you aren't worthy of love or to find and create your own kind of love. YOU ARE WORTHY!!!! 

Relationship goals that you wish for, trust me you are capable of having them. It's not worth it wishing and being sad/depressed over someone else's relationship. What's the rush? Oh you want to post Bae pictures on social media for the world to see. Why are you rushing? Ask yourself that question. Is the reason why you're rushing worth it? In life nothing that is meant to last forever come easy. Yes I know being in love and loved is one if the most amazing things ever but rushing it always leads to disappointments. I had to learn that, I always wanted to be in a relationship, I think part of me I just wanted someone to call my own since I was very insecure with myself but I learned that when I put myself in situations that are not even my worth it, I always get hurt. 


I told myself to be patient and the one that I am suppose to love will come my way. I wasn't looking and I stopped wishing to be in someone else's relationship. It took some time but now look, Iam the happiest that I have ever been. 

Don't envy others relationship it want others relationship because you are lonely. Don't make yourself miserable just because you want to love it be loved. Be patient, pray and just wait. Trust me when you have the love you deserve and prayed for, you will be the happiest that you have ever been. 

    
     A Confident Love From Me To You. 
                      Xoxo Yanika