You love him? You care for him? You pray for him and want the best for him but does he want or feel the same for you too. You fight for this relationship on your own because it's obvious he shows you signs that he isn't interested and fighting to meet you half way isn't something that he wants to do. Why stay? Oh I know you believe he will change and see how good of a women you are. It doesn't matter how could of a women you are, it doesn't matter if you cook, clean, wash his boxers. It doesn't matter if you're educated with a great job on your grind. Nothing matters because if he isn't into you, there is nothing that you can do to make him be in love with you or feel the same way you do. Being pretty doesn't keep a man, Hell being a GOOD woman barely keeps a man. The only things that keeps a man is a man that wants to be kept.
I was once that girl, if you read my previous blogs, I share a lot about my past. I trusted him, loved him and would do anything for him. Everytime he f*cked up, I gave him another chance because I honestly thought he would change and be the man that I wanted him to be. When I was in the house cooking, cleaning, doing everything for him, he was out cheating, doing him. But what's crazy is that I knew that, I knew he wasn't feeling the same way I was. I was giving more to the relationship than he was, I gave it my all and didn't even get an "I love you" back. I knew it was over after 2 years of being with him but I stayed an additional 3 years because I "thought" he would change.
I know you know you deserve better, I know deep down inside the sh*t you settling for isn't what you want. I know that you may feel that things will change but what about your happiness? Doesn't your happiness matters? Aren't you worthy to be treated the way you are meant to be treated? Sometimes the person you want, doesn't deserve you. You fight and pray for something that may never happen. At times you know they don't deserve you but you believe and have faith that one day things will change.
I've seen too many women lose their sense while waiting for a man to come to his. It hurts me because I know how you feel, it's not easy waking up with an ache in your heart all because he doesn't love you. You start to lose yourself and not focus on what's important which the most important thing you need to focus on is YOU. Trust me I know the feeling, while I was losing focus on myself, school and everything I needed to be doing, NOTHING CHANGED! I even didn't want to work because I didn't want him to lose him, but once again that sh*t didn't matter.
All this time you are wasting trying to make him love you and be with you, that time could of been spent doing things to make you better and accomplish the goals you have for yourself. I wasted so much time and despite the fact I am in a place in my life where Iam content, it took me awhile to realize that I WAS WORTH IT! It took me awhile to realize that I mattered and my goals is mattered as well and I needed to do what I had to do for myself.
I have a man that loves me now and yesterday (June 17th), we made two years of being together. I never even thought of falling in love again and being able to love someone else. I was broken and I was damaged but he knew I was worth it and was patient with me and most of all my heart. I never thought that someone can love all of me and appreciate me but there was someone out there waiting for me to give me exactly what I deserved. Falling in love with someone for the first time is cool but falling in love with someone everyday and they feel the same way is amazing. My Confident Dolls, you are worthy of the same love.
Stop thinking that you have to settle and you aren't worthy of being loved by someone. Stop settling, praying and wishing that HE changes. If you have to put yourself last and put him first while crying and fighting for him to love you, HE ISN'T THE ONE! Let it go, Let HIM go. Do what makes you happy and do what's best for you. Stop putting yourself last for love, you were born to be first. If he loves you, trust me you will know. You will feel it in your heart and soul by the way he makes you feel.
No relationship is perfect, you will go through the obstacles but when it's worth it, both of you guys will fight for it. My boyfriend and I have our issues but the love we have for each other is so strong that it surpass whatever issue we have. I did make a promise to myself, if things changes and it isn't the same with him than I will do what's best for me. I will fight for us but once I feel as if he isn't fighting back for us, I will let him go. No matter how much I love him, I refuse to settle for what I know that I don't deserve. I have faith in him, I have faith in us but things do happen in life so I have to be realistic. He is the best I ever had so all I can do is pray for us.
You're worth it, YOU KNOW IT!!! Start believing in it and stop settling when you know you deserve more. Don't waste your time on someone that wouldn't give you the time of day. My Confident Queens, Be Confident, Be You & Know Your Worth.
A Confident Love From Me To You.
Xoxo, Yanika
I´m seventeen years old. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now. He never cheated, but I feel as if every time we hang out or that I am the one who always has to tell him, ¨let´s hang out, I want to see you, I miss you¨ and when he says he miss me I feel like he doesn´t mean it. I really think he is in love with me but I´m usually alone in my house and he is in his house and I can´t even remember when was the last time he asked me if I was okay or how was I feeling. I feel like I deserve something better than him but at the same time when we are together he makes me so happy. Sometimes I feel like I want to end up the relationship but I can´t. I just can´t. I always want to talk about this topic with him but I´m afraid he might think I´m being selfish or too annoying. Any advice?
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