What About Him & His Insecurities.

When it comes to being in a relationship, people forget that it's not only the female that have trust issues as well as commitment issues. In any relationship both the male and female have issues, not necessarily the same issues but the most common ones are commitment/ trust issues. Have you ever taken a second to think maybe the reason why he is so scared to give you his all is because he gotten his heart broken in the past? Or maybe he doesn't know how to trust anyone? Or even know how to love anyone after being hurt? 

All guys have this pride that they don't want to make it seem as if their weak or emotional. So they have this confidence as if nothing can ever bother them and nothing/ no1 can hurt them but deep down inside they are scared/hurting because of something that happened to them in the past. It's hard for us to commint, but I find it harder for some guys to settle down and give their all to someone once they been hurt before. When guys give their all, they really give their all not saying we don't but they go beyond and above and if you break their heart after being so vulnerable to you, it's a wrap. Their hearts will never be the same again, it will take a while for them to love again as well as trust again but it won't be the same. 

Don't be so hard on him or quick to diss him because he won't commint to you. If this a man that you truly want to be with and love, take the time to know him just like you would him to get to know you. Make him trust you, make him believe that you are indeed different. Take time to listen to him, that's one of the issues we have as females, we never take the time to listen and take time to know them on a deeper level. When I say a deeper level, I mean listening to what he went through while growing up,what adversities he faced, what does love mean to him as well as wanting to know about his future plans. We ask these  questions after the fact that we are with them but it's good to know beforehand. 

Be patient with him as you want him to be patient with you. I talk about this before in previous blogs, when I met my boyfriend I was so broken I honestly thought he was going to leave me alone after almost 2 years of being patient with me. Don't get me wrong he was at a point where he was tired of trying, I was scared. My heart was broken to million of pieces and I was unable to trust anyone with it but he took his time day by day to heal my heart for me to love him one day. I never took the time to get to know him on a deeper level because I was so worried about him hurting me but as time goes on I wish I would of taken the time to get to know him on a deeper level much earlier in our relationship. 

This is why I advise you to get to know him, see where his head it at, don't only think about yourself and worry about what he may do to you. The same worries you have about him hurting you and doing you wrong, he has the same worries too. This is why I asked "What about him and his insecurities?". Don't forget about him as he is in the process of giving you his heart, be mindful that he is also scared. 

Every relationship is 50/50, a relationship grows and builds with both people involve. If you know it's something that you aren't ready for, let it go. The same way you wouldn't want someone to play with your heart, don't play with anyone else's heart. Get to know him, make him trust you if this is what you want and make him believe that giving you his heart was the best choice that he ever made in his life. 

      A Confident Love From Me To You. 

                  Xoxo, Yanika