Don't Become Who Hurt You!

As she shares with me her pain, she states that "I will never be the same, I will never love another man again". For years she loved this man, never thought in a million years that he will break her heart to the point she believed it will never heal again. I looked her in the eyes and said "You will love again, trust me you will". It brought me back to when I felt the same exact way, there was a time I kept telling myself "Iam done with love". I was hurt for awhile but then I realized I can't be the person that hurt me.

 My heart was filled with love and it wouldn't be fair if I didn't show someone else the love I have inside of me. We all been in a position where we have been hurt before but the pain we went through doesn't define us. I was done with love as I wrote about it in previous blogs  but it wouldn't had been fair for me not to give it to someone else who would appreciate it. If you're a good women then you stay a good women. Why would you change who you are because of pain and what you dealt with all because someone didn't appreciate you. Love is suppose to teach us as time goes on. The pain that you endure let it grow and teach you to love again even more. Breakups hurt but losing someone who doesn't respect you, Love you or appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss as I wrote in a previous blog "Smiles to broken promises". 

It took awhile for me to realize this but I learned that he wasn't worthy of me and the same goes for you. Don't give up on love, it won't give up on you. Your heart will be healed again by someone who will love you for you and appreciate all that you do. As my friend Daquan Henry said " we all face obstacles and encounter dead ends, but don't let experiences change you for the worst. Don't let someone change how you love, change with how you connect with someone, change how your heart beats when it's caressed by  someone's  actions,  change the passion your eyes carry, change change the person you are"  and he is so right.

 If we changed the person we are because of the things we go through we would constantly be someone else. Don't change who you are, just learn from it. Always be who you are, don't let your heart turn cold. My heart was cold for a very long time while still believing in love. It took a special someone to change the temperature of my heart. I was scared but I had to allow myself to love again and trust my heart in his hands. Sometimes I think back what if I became who hurt me? What if I never gave love a chance again? What if I just allowed my heart to be cold?  And If I allowed those things to happen I wouldn't have the love I have now. 

It will take time to heal again but the person that will find you will take that pain away from you. There is someone praying for someone like you, your love shouldn't go unnoticed. Your love shouldn't have to suffer because of your past, your love is meant to be admire by someone that will be thankful to have it. Don't become who hurt you, let the next person get a chance on what it's like to have a girl like you.  

A broken heart is meant to be healed again in due time, love even more than you did before. The pain I felt gave me understanding, it made me realize that I was even more of an amazing person than I thought I was. My pain made me love myself again and made me realize I was worth it for love again. Don't be mad at what he did, don't hate yourself for feeling the pain you feel, don't give up on love and most of all don't become who hurt you. Be you, love even more and always know your worth. 

  

YOU ARE FIT ONLY FOR A KING THAT IS STRONG ENOUGH TO HONOR A QUEEN ❤️ 

   

      A Confident Love From Me To You

                      Xoxo Yanika