Ever been in a situation where you're scared to express how you feel only because it may not go the way you want it to go. For example, telling your significant other that you didn't like something he/she did but you know it may lead to an argument. So you keep it all in despite it hurting you only to avoid an argument.
I wouldn't say Iam the greatest communicator, every day Iam learning on how to be a better communicator as well as how I deliver it. PRESENTATION IS KEY!!! The way you express your emotions or opinions plays a big part. I've learned that I have to express how I feel no matter how it may make the other person feel or how things may come out. I always feel like if I express myself I may make the situation worse in some cases that's how it turns out but as long as I got out what was bothering me then that's all that matters.
In life certain situation will make you feel a way especially people around you but you have to be strong and let your emotions out. You matter the most and you can't make yourself feel worse by letting everything in and going as if everything is fine. What is holding you back from communicating?
Our pride/ego is something that holds us back from communicating and expressing how we feel. I won't lie, my pride made me keep it all in no matter how much it was hurting in the past. Some people will lose a love one all because of their pride. They rather not say what's on their minds to make it work and just let things be.
You have to let it out and just trust things to be how it's suppose to be. Whatever that is meant to be will be but you will feel all better in the long run all because you know you made the right choice for yourself by letting your emotions out. Some people don't know how to communicate, they just don't know how to. It's not like they don't want to but they just don't know how to.
Communication is a hard task especially for men, they don't like conflict where we can talk for days ( Well I know I can). They rather just keep it in until it doesn't matter anymore where it wouldn't be an issue. But once again how can you move on if you don't talk about it. If you are with someone who doesn't know how to communicate, help them open up. Make them realize that opening up and talking about the issue will make things better. Some people never had to express their feelings and talk about their emotions so they don't know how to open up. But if you are by their side helping them every step of the way then they will learn how to communicate instead of shutting down when there is an issue.
To move on and make things better you have to communicate and work it out. If not even if you think you moved on, trust me the issue will always be on your mind. The next time there's an issue you will be bothered by two issues and not one and the more you keep it all in the more issues you will be bothered by. As I mentioned before, I wasn't always the best communicator but over the years especially recently I've learned that it is important to communicate. I have to express how I feel and it's ok if I do.
You can't live life worrying about how someone may feel for you expressing how you feel. Never forget, YOU MATTER! So you come first. Express how you feel, talk it out even write a letter if you have to as long as you let it all out.
A Confident Love From Me To You
Xoxo Yanika
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