Be In Love With..........

If someone was to ask you, Who are you in love with? What would be your first response. Most women wouldn't even think of saying themselves but they would be quick to say the name of their significant others first. Over the years I've learned that the only person that you should love first and unconditionally is YOURSELF. 

I can admit and I know I've written this before in previous blogs that there was a point in my life where I didn't love myself. I hated myself so much that I have scars on my arm to remind me each and everyday on when I almost took my own life away. As I look at the scars daily on my arm, it makes me love myself even more and reminds me to never get to the point that I hate myself again. 

Why don't you love yourself? But you can love others. You have to be able to love yourself entirely so you can love someone else. We fail to realize that and when we give our all to others, we take away from loving ourselves even more. It's a priority to love yourself first, it is your duty to make sure that you love yourself more than you love anyone else and that includes your mother and father. Of course love God, he is the reason why you're here so for me I love God the same as I love myself. He didn't have to give me another chance to go on with life but he did so I will always be thankful for him as I should. 

We at times hate ourselves for not being where we are in life or for how we look. I know, I've been there to the point I hated myself more and more when sh*t didn't go right or if I didn't like how my body looked. I hated myself for not being where I wanted to be in life, I just felt like time was going and I was just stuck and I hated myself because society made me hate myself. They made me feel that plus size wasn't the right size and being plus size was some type of disease. I hated everything about me and everything around me. 

It took a very long time for me to get to where I am now but with prayer and patience, I learned to love myself unconditionally and put myself first. I realized that I mattered the most and I needed to not only do what's best for me but I needed to take care of myself mentally, psychically, and emotionally. I needed to do everything that will make me happy. I have my days when I feel down, Iam human. But even I when I feel this way, I remind myself that I will be just fine. 

You have be in love with yourself even when things doesn't go right and even if you don't like the extra fat on your body. No matter what you have to be confident and love every single inch of you. We already live in a world where we are judged for everything, from our skin tone to the texture of our hair. When we put ourselves down and not love ourselves the way we should. We give them an opportunity to keep on breaking us down, If we showed them that we were confident, we loved ourselves and they couldn't break us down then they wouldn't go so hard to break us down. 

Love Yourself My Confident Dolls, Be In Love with who you are and the person you will become. Stop hating on the most amazing creation God created which is YOU. Did you ever think that you are a blessing and not a mistake. Even if times get rough and you aren't where you want to be in life. Even if you aren't at the weight you wished to be, you're still beautiful and you matter. To complete be in love with someone else or even be able to love someone else you have to first be in love with yourself. 

THE BEST LOVE IS SELF LOVE, Be In Love With........YOURSELF! 

  

   A Confident Love From Me To You 

                   Xoxo, Yanika.