My Confident Shorts... Encourage Not Discourage!

My Confident Shorts 

August 16, 2014 a beautiful Saturday which was yesterday, I woke up an such an amazing mood claiming that I was going to have an amazing day. I started my day with a prayer, followed by breakfast and some reading.  I was excited for later on in the evening where I would be attending my first BBQ of the summer, Can you believe that? I didn't go to not one BBQ and turn all the way up Lol so I was excited. I was feeling good while picking out my clothes, I had to be cute and sexy. I first decided to wear a maxi dress but then I said let me wear some shorts and a white button up shirt, cute, simple & sexy just like I wanted. As I was getting dress, I had my music turn up, just appreciating life. It's important My Confident Dolls to take a few minutes each and everyday to just appreciate what you have and be thankful. As I finish getting dressed, I finish my look with some MAC ruby woo  (my favorite) you can't go wrong with some red lipstick. I was feeling good, looking good and smelling good, yes today was going to be a good day. 

           (My cute, sexy & simple look) 

I left my house and met up with my homegirl, we planned to go to two BBqs, yes we were going to have a great night TURN UP TIME (Doing The Dougie Lol). The first BBQ was a birthday celebration for one of my homegirls, from the time I got there to the the time I left I had a BLAST. I definitely was shaking what my mama gave me in my confident shorts all night. I didn't want to leave but I made promises to one of my other homegirls to attend her BBQ. It was already midnight but I was ready to have some more fun, I was still in a great mood and I knew I was going to have a blast at the second BBQ. So as my homegirl and I are talking and walking to the second location, this car filled with girls stop at the red light as we crossed the street, they were talking but I didn't pay them no mind. As the light turned green, one of the girls yelled "That's not you Ma, shorts isn't a good look for you, get it together". At first I couldn't believe what I just heard, she said something else but I was so shocked that I didn't hear what else she said and then they speed off. I was shocked, hurt but most of all angry. What was wrong with my shorts? Absolutely nothing but to her it was a problem. WHY?! Part of me wished she would of said it to my face but I probably would of reacted in a not so polite way which isn't even in my character but when someone disrespects you anything can happen. But then again Iam happy she yelled it out for me to hear and went about her business but what was her purpose. I continued heading to the BBQ, she wasn't going to ruin my night. 

(@whitneydeececala, @shawebb, @_justkenya, @830virgo) 

Iam not going to lie I was hurt but I just prayed for her asking God to heal her soul. A million questions came through my mind, I just couldn't understand why it was so important for her to yell out her opinion to me. She probably thought it would of affected me to the point I would never wear shorts again as she stated it wasn't a good look. If I would of heard her say that to me 5 years ago when I was afraid to wear shorts because I didn't have an ounce of confidence, I would of definitely listened to her.

 Each and everyday I try to understand why are some females so vindictive and make it their duty to bash and break other women down. Why be so negative? I wonder if negativity bring them happiness or give them some type of power. Why couldn't she give me a compliment such as "Girl, you're killing those shorts" which I was (Iam  Not Cocky Just  Confident As You All Should Be My Confident Dolls) or she could of said "Hey, you look nice" but instead she used words to try to bring me down. This girl is someone daughter and probably someone mother and would be pissed if someone told her something to bring her down. 

(@kurvykatie,@careyadela,@mo_pumpsngloss, @ambitious_queen_13) 

We are all the same at the end of the day, we are all women with different skin tone, characteristics, and abilities to achieve our dreams. We all want to be successful and make our dreams come true but some females instead of bringing other females up and inspiring and motivating them to do better and feel better about themselves, they rather just sit back and bash and bring them down. Absolutely nothing was wrong with my shorts, I looked good. I get it Iam not society average size, Iam a plus size women, so what I LOVE MYSELF. 

                  (@_virgogurl_) 

Society make us feel as if we can't wear certain outfits matter of fact they say we can't wear certain outfits. Excuse my French but F@$k  That and kiss my A$$ for those with a negative mind. Iam going to wear what I want when I want as long as Iam comfortable and happy in it. When did clothes have a size limit to it, Iam tired of society and people telling anyone not jut plus size females what to wear. If a female is skinny and she wear a see through dress, her bones are showing and if a plus size girl wear the same dress, her rolls are showing. Either way someone will say something negative about one of them wearing the dress. 

( @selenam80, @_khlo, @kingarrie, @addicted2myfashion) 

BEAUTY Doesn't Have a WEIGHT LIMIT Either Does STYLE! Style is the best way to say who you are without having to speak as Rachel Zoe once said. I love girls who compliment each other, I think it's amazing to tell another female just like you that she's pretty or that she's doing her thing. But too many females feels like it's a competition these days. It's ok to be nice, actually it's great to be nice. Give credit when it's due, you don't get paid to be negative or by hating.No Matter What Size You Are, If You Have Rolls, A stomach Or 2 Or No Stomach. Big Thighs, Big Butt, Small Butt. It Doesn't Matter What Shape You Are Because Regardless Of Anything You Are Beautiful. So Rock Your Hips, Be Confident, Be You, Be Sexy. YOU MATTER & YOU'RE WORTH IT  MY CONFIDENT DOLLS and don't you forget it. 

                  (@sewbrooklyn) 

I pray each and everyday that all females start encouraging each other and not discourage one another. It's bad enough that we live  in a crazy world why make it more difficult for the next female trying to live in it. It was no reason for that girl to tell me what she told me but I guess it made her feel good about herself when she should feel horrible or it gave her some sense of satisfaction. As Iam writing this Iam still praying for her, it's sad she felt that way only if she knew her words couldn't  break me and she always knew that my confidence is on a 100. Iam just sitting here thinking about what if she would of told you those words and you weren't so confident like I am, now you would of been broken. 

(@delisedanielle, @mamafitt @_chalarae, @urban_boheme86) 

When I started "Confidence Is You", my goal which I accomplished to hundreds already and it is still my goal was to help build the self esteem of those who doesn't feel confident, help them with their worth, reassure them that they are beautiful and that they matter. I don't want anyone to feel how I felt years ago, it wasn't a good feeling at all. I was miserable and I didn't know what happiness was because I let the opinions of others around me and what I saw in society make me feel as if I didn't matter and I wasn't pretty enough due to my size. I don't want anyone to feel that way, how can anyone live that way. I just want us all to love each other and just be there for one another. What's so wrong with doing that? Being so negative towards someone else doesn't bring joy  into your life, it makes your character look bad. When you give other females compliment, trust and believe you just made her smile and one more thing it doesn't make you look Thristy. Like I always say Thick Thighs In A Tight Dress, Loving Every Part Of ME & You Should Feel The Same Way As Well. Never Be Afraid To Wear What You Want To Wear Scared Of The Opinions Of Others. I've Been There Scared To Wear Certain Things Because  I Was The "Big Girl" & People Will Say Things Abt Me But I've Learn That I Have To Make Myself Happy & Live My Life For Me. If It Makes You Happy, You're Comfortable  & You Feel Sexy while Wearing It Then Wear It. Do What Makes You Happy, Be Confident But Most of All ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!!!!!

Stop bashing another female, stop trying to put her down, stop judging her, stop trying to break her down. Uplift her, compliment her, show her love, give her inspiration and motivation. We have to come together and encourage one another and not discourage one another. I will fight to make "Confidence is you" a movement where all my ladies feel as one. Thank You To All My Confident Dolls For Sharing Their Pictures Wearing Their Shorts Confidently and Proundly. CONFIDENCE IS ME, CONFIDENCE IS YOU, CONFIDENCE IS US!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

   A Confident Love From Me To You

                     Xoxo Yanika