It's February 2nd and all you can think about is Valentine's Day and how you don't have someone to share it with. You have all of these thoughts flowing through your mind to why you are lonely and how miserable Valentines Day will be. Pick your head up, stop with all the negative thoughts, stop asking questions to why you are single and can't find someone to love you. Do you even love yourself? Do you?! If you did you wouldn't care about being lonely on Valentine Day and you wouldn't care about having someone to share it because the love you have for yourself would surpasses all of that.
To be honest with you, the last time I celebrated Valentines day was in High School. I remember my Ex boyfriend surprised me with a teddy bear, flowers and candy, it was special but I never made a big deal of that day. My Ex that I was with for years didn't even acknowledge Valentines day, he didn't even say "Happy Valentine's Day" to me. Of course I was hurt but he never showed his appreciation for me any other day anyways. Due to going through that with him and never feeling loved or appreciated I told myself the next man I am with have to make me feel loved and appreciated everyday and not only for February 14th.
Why would you want to be with someone who shows you how much he loves you, cares about you and how much he appreciates you only once a year. Wouldn't you want someone to show how much you mean to him every chance he got? Wouldn't you want someone to give you the world and show you the world each and everyday? See that's the thing you don't think about the endless and forever lasting love and appreciation because you're to busy thinking about having someone to share February 14th with. Wake up and realize you deserve more than just one day, it's time to realize that you deserve to be love and for someone to show you love everyday you are with them.
My boyfriend as of today, Mr MJ, I could care less if we were to celebrate Valentines Day because there isn't a day that he doesn't show me how much I mean to him. Last year I don't even think we celebrated Valentines day, I didn't care to probably the reason why is because I felt loved and appreciated and I didn't need February 14th to validate that for me. Yes it is a very special day and I am not telling you not to celebrate it. I just want you to be with someone where you feel as if everyday is Valentines Day. You are worth more than you will ever know, you may think otherwise but you are. Stop settling for less than what you deserve just so you don't have to be lonely on special occasions. It's ok to be lonely as I said in a previous post, take the time that you are single to focus more on yourself and the things you would love to accomplish.
I was single for about 3 years before I got into my relationship now. I wanted to be sure that I was ready to give someone my time, loyalty and attention where I would eventually love and care for them. I wasn't in no rush especially with the BS I went through. My heart was very fragile and it needed someone with patience to take their time healing it which was MJ.
Focus on yourself, Focus on the true Queen you are. Focus on your dreams, Focus on what truly matters. Stop Focusing on finding someone so you don't have to always be the "Single Friend", stop settling for less than what you deserve just so you can feel loved. I always say this "Don't look for him, let him search for you". It's better to have someone find you, you're worthy of someone finding you and to love you unconditionally.
You deserve the ultimate love and I know you will find it, I just want you to be patient and wait until someone can give you the world and love and appreciate you everyday and not only on Valentines Day.
A Confident Love From Me To You
Xoxo Yanika
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